dear baby dommes or dommes who don’t feel as valid as “OG Dommes”:
More established Dommes or ones who been here longer rarely have your best interest at heart. Most of their opinions are just that. There is no financial domme rule book and someone is always moving the moral purity goal post for ego driven reasons. My biggest suggestion to you will be to learn how to say “fuck them” unapologetically and march to the beat to your own drum. They hate when you do things differently or find a way to not suffer or stumble in a way they did. In the great words of Tyler the Creator “give a fuck about tradition, stop impressing the dead”. If you got them tight, you’re probably doing something causing movement. Keep running in directions no one else is to find yourself in places only you can describe. Warm regards.