Edikanabasi🦋

Orphic| Seraphic| Snapchat: @edi.kan

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Art work 🤔💯

[DORAHVA @miss_dsf]

Men have no right to flirt with me but I can flirt with you first🌚

[🥷 @_iamhabeeb]

your body refusing to let you cry is worse than crying

[Edikanabasi🦋 @edikanD_]

@__Olufunmi Bruhhhhhhhh😂😂😂😂

[Ajokeee 🤍 @Aheesha_x]

Social media parenting makes everything sound so absolute. Sometimes you just have to actually live with a 1-year-old to understand that there’s a LOT of grey area.

And honestly, if I didn’t have a 15-month-old myself, I probably would have agreed to your caption.

But parenting a toddler has taught me that it’s not always that black and white.

My son knows he’s not supposed to come into the bathroom when I’m having my bath. I’ve consistently told him no, shut the door when necessary, and allowed him to cry through it. Now, most days, he understands. Sometimes he whines a little and goes back to the sitting room. Sometimes he doesn’t even react. He knows the routine.

But there are STILL days when he’ll cry, push the bathroom door, throw a proper tantrum because he wants to be with me. And some days I’m just like, “You know what? Fine.”

Not because I’ve suddenly decided that my boundaries don’t matter. Sometimes I just want to have my bath in peace without listening to a baby scream for 15 minutes. So I sacrifice my privacy for that particular moment. That’s it.

Same thing in the kitchen. I baby-proofed my cabinets, but sometimes he comes into the kitchen bored and wants my attention while I’m trying to cook or do the dishes. There are days I’ll unlock one cabinet for him and let him play with the safe things inside so I can get my job done.

There are days I don’t want him watching tv and there are days I put on the tv because I need 30 minutes of peace.

Does that mean I’m raising a spoiled child? Does it mean I’m teaching him that “no” means nothing?

No.

It means I’m raising an actual toddler, not a robot. 😂

Toddlers are learning boundaries, emotions, patience and independence all at once. You can consistently teach them “no” and still occasionally choose convenience, peace or survival without undoing all the work you’ve done.

One exception does not erase the boundary. One peaceful bath does not create a spoiled child.

[Edikanabasi🦋 @edikanD_]

@__Olufunmi A million times GODFORBID!

[Edikanabasi🦋 @edikanD_]

@__Olufunmi Get ready for a proposal my queen

[Edikanabasi🦋 @edikanD_]

@__Olufunmi Take me out with you my queen

[truly.sther🌟 @trulysther]

And unfortunately, all the bottling up catches up with you on a random Tuesday night

[RODEYO :) @badghel_sam]

Nah, I’m very aware that I’m horrible. 🙏

[Edikanabasi🦋 @edikanD_]

@radiux_xoxo Good

[Mamello🧚🏽‍♀️ @MelloFelicia1]

Babyyyy I can survive being single…….Being broke is where I draw the line😩😭😂

[Zoya @Zoyag9fc]

Women hate men as a system, not as individuals.
Men hate women as people.
That's the issue.

[Edikanabasi🦋 @edikanD_]

I grew up with so much love that I never knew what toxicity was until I had to deal with humans outside my home

[toya💋 @miss_t0yaa]

I’m not making enough money, that’s my only problem

[Yoriyori-OyokO💕🎀 @Ify__oma]

When I’m angry and I hear someone say “she’s always like that”

[miia @miiagarro]

"you can't be mad about it forever"

do not test me

[‏ً @itsnwts]

HOT TAKE: men should have curfews so women can go out at night.