You can't grow if you're easily offended. Because, every time someone says something you don't like, you redirect your energy to overthinking what they're thinking or meant or intentions. Zero productivity over people who probably don't remember what they said.
Becoming the best version of you will sometimes require cutting off some people, because, you can't solve everyone's problem all the time and grow at the same time.
The world might not owe you anything but you owe some people something. Gratitude, appreciation, kindness, because some people were there for you when you had nothing to offer them.
Frustration is born in the space between reality and expectations.
And sometimes the remedy is lowering your expectations before that hard reality check.
The first brick of your success wall will have to be built by yourself, people like helping someone that's helping themselves. Even parents like helping that child that's determined to do it themselves.
Success will not fall on you and you will not pick a bag of money
No matter the warnings, people still fall for schemes promising 10% or more weekly interest. But, the reality of wealth building is boring, it's one lousy step at a time over a long period of time, if the investment attracts so much hype and excitement, it may not be it. One constant about wealth is time. It takes TIME.
The more selective you're, the fewer the doors that will be available to be opened.
It also doesn't help to be selective when you have fewer options.
This may not be about doors.
The people you fear to annoy if they find out about your side gig, will not fear to annoy you if they fire you.
Prioritise yourself coz only you matters the most to you.
The most valuable asset to most people is their job. It may not pay well but respect it because it's easier to find another when you already have one. The holder of the same asset shouldn't make you lose yours, simply because you don't like them.
Things are thick on the streets if you get there unprepared.
While at Cambridge some years ago, I met Ugandans who were studying there - genetics, crop science, development studies, education, etc… I have kept contact with many of them. Some are in Uganda. Some returned after their studies but later left to other countries. Some never returned. The last two categories, were especially those who had solicited their own funding. On return, many struggled to fit in. Others felt that their expertise could not shine in institutional cultures of mediocrity. They were frustrated by mediocres - who tend to be the majority.
When a country adopts mediocrity, everyone is put at risk. Technical people (if employed) are supervised by clueless powerful relatives and friends of some above who ultimately determine what gets to be done or not. Scholarships at big universities that would have facilitated the best brains to think and innovate for the country end up being taken by their average relatives and friends - who return to mess things. Even when the cream succeed at getting scholarships on their own, they hardly find opportunity to shine - as the connected mediocre take first priority.
I have taught many students who only returned to university for papers (sometimes a BA) but were already occupying big offices. In class you would at times listen to the quality of their submissions and only wonder where such brains can take the country, yet they’re in charge! They are running things, with untold arrogance!
Countries that care where they want to go are very deliberate in selecting talent and utilising it. It is ideas that move and change the world - and that is our key deficit. Yet even the few good ideas are messed by the mediocres in offices. I imagine that if the first visit to the moon were to be in Uganda, certain people would still have insisted on fixing in their relative. A combination of putting clueless people in critical positions plus our breakdown in integrity is just but a sure way to national decay. Third world cancer - people who not only lack progressive ideas but they are also thieves.
Every talent that made a mark in the world, left two behind that didn't get an opportunity.
Be grateful for every hand that pulled you up or an opportunity that gave you an advantage.
Take advantage of every advantage.
Someone said... The goal is to live good not die rich but if you taste some money and lose it all, you will taste death before dying because previously lack of basics was a way of life but now it's regrets, depression, hatred and hunger.
Guard your money jealously.
You can't keep waiting, wishing & hoping for good things to happen to you, the world doesn't work like that. You have to want it so bad that it pushes you to go out there to work for it. Nothing is going to happen to those you cursed for not helping you. Push your own weight
You have so many responsibilities and so many people to take care of but if your life stops today, none of theirs will stop. So, stop looking like your problems and give yourself priority.... Mentally and physically.
“Your success is not entirely deserved and other people’s failure and misfortune is equally not entirely deserved. There’s a small room for luck, circumstance and opportunity”