My life got better when I realized I didn't have to be nice. Nice got me ran over, stressed out, & disrespected. I'm not nice. Im a good person. There's a difference.
Trauma keeps you in survival mode, which drains your energy and makes you think you are unmotivated and lazy. Healing makes you realize you are not unmotivated and lazy, but simply burnt out and exhausted from being in survival mode for so long.
it's actually scary how when you like or love someone you downplay or lie to yourself about all the shit they've done to you so you can stomach staying with them...
May you attract the people with high emotional intelligence who know how to regulate their emotions, resolve conflicts, and communicate their feelings and situations effectively instead of ghosting you, giving you the silent treatment, or being passive-aggressive.
NONSEXUAL DOMINANCE IS SO <3 having someone choose for you? placing a hand on your back? pulling you closer in crowded areas? fixing your hair when you didnt know it was messy? holding your hand to guide you through crowds? telling you when you should eat/go to bed? god tier
You deserve a calm love with someone who's your best friend, your safe space, and soothes your soul during stressful times. Life is tough enough – you deserve someone who brings you peace, not problems.