This Nigeria country is something else. Some youths are doing fraud, and EFCC won’t let them rest, while those who are not doing fraud are trying to become X influencers. It’s very hard to grow on X, and once you post anything bad or fake news just to get views, they can arrest you immediately.
God bless people like Don Jazzy and other big men who don’t arrest people on this app because they understand that it’s all for views. Sometimes, even Don Jazzy quotes fake news just to go viral.
The Nigerian Police special fraud unit under the instigation of Dwellion design came to make an illegal and forceful arrest of an individual after they were served a court notice two days priorA blatant regard to his human right as a citizen of this nation https://t.co/7Ph2HQ0ZOs
“It’s not that people aren’t noticing your impact; they’re just waiting for you to DIE first.”
This expresses a perception of human nature that people often fail to fully appreciate someone's value until they are no longer around.
We take familiar people for granted unconsciously assuming they will always be there. Then, when they are gone, we begin to reflect more deeply on their contributions, kindness, sacrifices, and the impact they had on our lives.
This is why there has been a noble call for people to appreciate others while they are still alive rather than waiting until their death to celebrate them.
I understand the validity of this argument, and I can attest to it, having observed these circumstances since I was young.
Whenever I came across a funeral or celebration of life booklet, I would navigate straight to the tribute section. There, I would find myriad beautiful, heartfelt, and incredibly lengthy accounts of the deceased's impact on others.
I really do think that the abundance of tributes could determine the probability of whether someone would make it to heaven. 😂
It fascinate me to seeing how people write entire essays, epistles, celebrating someone's personality and contributions only after that person is gone. This has become conventional, really.
It reinforces the premise that the value of something or someone is not always fully appreciated until the person is gone.
It also insinuates that people sometimes trivialise presence and discover value in absence because they miss the person.
Butttt...
Does missing someone necessarily mean you appreciate them?
In many cases, missing someone prompts us to reflect on their significance.
However, I do not think the two are synonymous.
Missing someone may reveal their value to us, but the idea of missing someone is entirely tied to the memories, familiarity, companionship, or season of life we associate with them.
I'd like to address this from a different personal perspective, one which is tweaked by how self-awareness has influenced my approach towards interacting with others.
I have become more conscious of the consequences of my actions and inactions, as well as the influence other people have on my life. I have learnt to pay rapt attention to how human experiences evolve and how seemingly ordinary interactions can be ingenious, invaluable, leave a lasting impact, and contribute to our growth.
People influence us through their advice, kindness, encouragement, and the opportunities they provide, or even through the lessons we learn from difficult experiences. Every interaction has the potential to leave something behind.
In this regards, I have learnt to appreciate people while they are present and only MISS them when they are gone.
I make conscious and deliberate effort to acknowledge those who show up for me, reflect on how they have contributed to my progress, and communicate what their presence means to me.
I'm fond of making profound reflections and writing lengthy appreciation messages to people, even before the advent of generative AI tools like ChatGPT.😌
This writing gesture is an attempt to articulate what someone means to me, the lessons I have learnt from them, and the ways their existence has blessed my life, with the hope that they will remain around perpetually.
However... LIFE is really COMPLEX. People die, friendships fade, relationships collapse, and circumstances take people to different places. Owing to these varied realities, people who once had significant spaces in our lives are no longer around.
And what happens?
I MISS them.
I can reminisce about the conversations, experiences, and memories we shared. I reflect on the ways they influenced my life and the moments that were incredibly invaluable due to their presence.
... To be continued in the reply section