My apartment loves to give me an anxiety attack by sending out mass texts about missing rent payments and offering payment plans when my rent is paid in full.
@Eowyn_the_Fair My ex and I did that for awhile and it was so nice (I still usually planned, which was annoying, but…). He also had friends with vacation properties so he’d say “Can you take X-Y days off? I made plans” and we’d drive up to a lake house or fly to a nearby island. It was lovely.
I would regularly tell my ex “I’m exhausted. I’ve had a long day. I’m frustrated. I do not care where we go, please just tell me where to show up and I will.” Which would ALWAYS inevitably lead to me picking the place.
Most women do articulate. Part of the issue is men often have little curiosity. Example: she asks you to plan a date. Her having to ask for this is fail #1. If you can't figure what your wife might like to do on a date, you haven't cared enough to study her - fail #2. And then you do something very low-effort. Fail #3. "Well why didn't you tell me exactly what you wanted?!" Fail #4.
She doesn't want to give you step by step instructions like you're doing a project for the science fair.
@Keynesaholic@shesbonky An easy going guy lets my random crash outs/mood swings roll off his back (never directed at him), lets my forgetful ADD-ness slide (when it’s not serious), lets spontaneity be okay and fun. But I need him to know how I take my coffee, what brand of TP we use, take out the trash
@magi_jay@JustJoshinNH@kilday_morgan Immediately after moving to New England I noticed a certain echelon of people would say “Nice to see you” upon first meeting. I clocked it as part of the upper crust, but was later validated after reading Luckiest Girl Alive when the narrator comments on it.
@ok_post_guy “Light subduing” is such an interesting way to spin this. I have to wonder if that’s what my crazy ex thought he was doing after he attacked me, denied it, then held me hostage for hours. Just a little light subduing.
I had an interview ~6m ago, the interviewer asked me “Other than the money, why do you want to work here?” Dawg. I hate to break it to you, but that’s the only reason I want to work here.
@questionableway I walked 17k steps today and had a bunch of margaritas. Now I’m sitting here doom scrolling my phone on my way home.
I love the train.