Lecturing is an interesting profession, but it can also be a very dangerous one. In some situations, it can even be more dangerous than the military. The relationship between a male lecturer and a female student, whether married or unmarried, can be quite complex. The line between maintaining professionalism and becoming involved in inappropriate relationships is very thin. It takes strong self-discipline, wisdom, and prayer to resist the temptations that can arise.
Lecturing is interesting but it can be a very dangerous profession. It can be more dangerous than the military. The relationship between a lecturer (man) and a student (woman), married or unmarried is complex. The line between staying professional and becoming promiscuous is very thin. One needs a powerful prayer and strong self will to resist the temptation that is thrown at you constantly.
Lecturers go looking for a female student to date. I have seen that happen many times. There are many of them. They come in different shapes, colours, sizes, and family backgrounds. There is always the one that will catch your fancy and she is vulnerable. Your ability to stay professional and resist her will save your life and personal credibility.
Female students go looking for lecturers to date. They wear heavy make up to the classroom. They smell nice to entice. They stare at lecturers like a romantic movie. One can almost feel the sharpeness in their eyes. They talk seductively. Its like music to the ears. Some of them will like the lecturers naturally. I know a few who found love and got married from the classroom. Some of them cannot pass a particular course or the project is too hard to write. They are looking for academic favours and there is no boundary that they cannot cross. Some are just looking for fun. They see a fine lecturer, they like him immediately.
These dynamics are hard to navigate. Some of the few strategies that I personally implemented is to reduce exposure. I don't share my phone number. All correspondences are done by email. The students hated me for this but I wanted to protect myself against destruction. Female students are not allowed to come to my office to gist. Allowing a group of female "gisters" in your office is the beginning of a bad journey. I also didn't collect any gift of any kind from students. It is a trap, avoid it.
The university classroom is a wonderful place where knowledge is shared and acquired. But it is a dangerous place to be. Be very intentional in what you do. Pray hard and stay out of trouble with these girls because it is not worth it. The lecturer who got the beating of his life deserves to learn a lesson. There is nothing he is looking for in that married woman that his own wife cannot provide. It is all fantasy.
The grace of God and a little bit of luck is what will make the difference if a woman is involved. A woman's trap can catch anybody. Allah ya kyauta!
A woman’s worst nightmare is watching the man she left level up, get stronger, richer, sharper and end up with a better woman than her. Make that nightmare real.
Mallam, kana tan talaka daga arewa, ka tashi ka nemi na kanka. Ka nemi kudi, ka nemi arziki, ka roki Allah ya baka. Ba abin kunya a chiki.
Kuma idan ka sami aiki mai dama dama, ka rike shi. Kar kache zaka bari ka tafi neman aiki gwamnati.
Hold your job or business like your life depends on it. There’s nothing more devastating than having to be begging people to give you money.
Allah ya bamu sa’a. Amin.
Ronaldo is about to face Spain for the 4th time in 6 World Cups: 2006, 2010, 2018, 2026
He has also faced Brazil in 2010, Germany in 2014, and England in 2006.
Meanwhile Messi has played 6 World Cups and still hasn’t faced Spain, England, Brazil, or Italy once.
But we’re supposed to pretend the paths are the same?