Elaine Clark

I work with children and love it, what a great job! I enjoy holidays, reading, concerts, TV, time with friends, slouching on my couch, and did I say holidays?!

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@marycruzmorgan @P7Transition @springburnacad Oh wow, he's doing fabulous and looking so grown up. How can it be almost a year since he left us at Elmvale? ❤️❤️ x

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@DFScotlandTeach Congratulations! Such fabulous news x

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@woodcarver_t Oh wow! He is so cute. X

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@woodcarver_t Beautiful! X

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@woodcarver_t These are beautiful x

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@studio22artz Hi Lisa, I showed this to my sis, and she said it's still her favourite present. She even has it as her phone lockscreen. She loved all the comments from everyone, and as soon as we spoke about it, George (thunderpaws) 🐈‍⬛ landed in her bedroom and came through. Thanks again x

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@woodcarver_t Fabulous, especially the hearts x

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@studio22artz Completed the survey. I hope your son gets on well. X

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@ColeSomeNumbers Even if the garage is not for storing your car, but random tat, there should be paving. I wouldn't like to get something out when there has been a downpour and end up with waterlogged shoes!!

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@MakingsOfMRDR Not a silly question about your favourite serial killer, but which to you epitomises pure evil / which is the vilest serial killer. Elaine & Sharon. Loving the show and we'll see you at Crimecon x

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@wetwetwetuk We have had a fantastic night here in Glasgow with you all. It's been so long since we saw you live, but we'll definitely be there for your next tour. Kevin, is such a brilliant addition to the group and takes it to the next level. Long may you continue. X #Wetsrock

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

We had a fabulous time tonight at the Glasgow Concert Hall watching Go West. We saw them here several years ago with Nik Kershaw, etc, and they were just as good tonight (if not better) as they were then. X @richarddrummie @peterjohncox

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@woodcarver_t A gorgeous puppy, such great carving x

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@RevRichardColes I hope you had fun here in Glasgow x

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@woodcarver_t Have a very Merry Christmas with you're family when it comes. Xx

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@woodcarver_t Aww this is so lovely x

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@woodcarver_t This is beautiful! X

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@christmas_clock Fairytale of New York. The best Christmas song ever xx

[Elaine Clark @elanac1972]

@Elmvaleprimary @BlairvadachOEC Well done! Great photo

[Creative Therapeutic Life Story & Parenting @life_story_work]

If you find this helpful, please share it with your colleagues :)

As professionals working with children and families, we understand that behaviour is a form of communication. It allows individuals to express their needs, desires, and emotions. However, it is essential to recognise that there is often more to behaviour than what meets the eye. Beneath the surface lies attachment, the gravitational force that pulls us towards one another to survive. This attachment is embedded in our nervous systems and can manifest in our behaviours.

When we only address observable behaviours, it is like placing a plaster on an open wound that requires significant attention. Instead, we must dig deeper to understand what lies beneath these behaviours. Our bodies often communicate our underlying emotions and sensations without conscious thought or effort.

As Professionals, we must pay attention to our bodies and the communication indicators of the family we work with. (this isn't easy) By reflecting on our own nervous system states when confronted with dysregulated behaviours, we can meet  the pedson in a state of regulation. This approach helps create a more relational, preventative, and brain-aligned discipline practice.

To achieve this, we can ask ourselves the following questions:

•What am I communicating to the person through my behaviour, gestures, face, posture, and tone?
•Have I checked in with my own nervous system and how it is responding to theother persons behaviour?
•Am I being authentic? Am I in touch with my gut feelings and checking in with myself regularly?
•Which family trigger me the most, and why?
•Do I respond to each person's behaviour in the same way?
•Which family do I redirect most often, and what behaviours do they exhibit?
•What behaviours do I expect to see, and how do I react when they don't occur?
•Which behaviours push my buttons the most?
•At what time of day do I feel the most calm and happy? What is happening during that time?
•At what time of day do I feel most dysregulated?
•What is my definition of calm and connected?
•Which family do I feel closest to, and why?

By exploring these questions, we can better understand our own nervous systems and how we respond to the behaviours of others. This approach helps us create a more effective and compassionate discipline practice that considers the underlying emotions and needs of those we are trying to help :)