If your relationship doesn't make you feel loved, relaxed, and safe then it's not healthy for you. Your partner should remove stress from your life.
NOT consistently add stress. Your partner should be your safe place. Not the root of your pain and fear and heartache. Know that.
"Good girl" conditioning has us believing our role is: to get other people to like or approve of us in social settings, to not "rock the boat", and to betray our own needs in order to appear selfless.
HERE'S HOW TO UNLEARN IT:
it’s suicide prevention month, something that’s close to my heart. let’s remember, everyone’s fighting their own battles. everyone’s growth looks different. celebrate each other. support each other. love each other.