i think the most important qualities you need in a partner, is a partner who is CONSIDERATE. Someone who can look at things from your point of view, who considers how you're feeling when things are rough, someone who creates a space for you to feel safe and vice versa.
If abortion is illegal because “sex has natural consequences,” then liver transplants for alcoholics and lung transplants for smokers should be illegal too because consequences, darling, are so consistent.
Patriarchy is so deeply rooted that a woman sacrificing her body to give birth is treated as normal, while a man washing a few dishes is treated like a hero.