Tea Demon Emma ☕ #a11y accessibility specialist at @Nexer_Digital. Writes very Scottish sci-fi/fantasy books, repped by @johnjarrold. She/her🏳️🌈 #LGBWithTheT
I've shut up shop here and cleared my data to erscape the Muskrat and his AI scraping, but I won't be far away! Come hang out over on BSky, okay? https://t.co/wkiErnGNa9
with no malice whatsoever to OP, some of you need to learn that more words aren't going to solve your problem
if you have something you need to express, write it down somewhere, get it out, then don't send it. tell yourself you can send it later and wait for the moment to pass
by doing this and revisiting it later, i learned that everything i wanted to say would have only made things worse, overloaded the other person, and caused them to pull away or not even respond to all the things anyway
sometimes, some of the things i wanted to say in the heat of the moment became useful later and i was able to go back and grab them! that was good. a lot of it never got said and the things i did get back after that moment showed me they didn't need to be said.
just because you feel it, doesn't mean it's real, and it doesn't mean anyone else needs to hear it. find someone who loves you and talk to them about the things you want to say to this person, get them straight in your own head. it will help deal with the urgency
i had disorganized attachment, which features both avoidant AND anxious. for possibly the first time in my life, i experience secure attachment now. the process of getting here was highly unpleasant, but you have to understand that you cannot control other people's behaviour, only your own
no-one is going to manage your emotions for you. you have to do it yourself
the marie kondo “does this spark joy?” method of decluttering never worked for me, but an adhd tiktoker just changed my entire life by introducing “the poop rule: if this object had poop on it, would you wash it off, or throw it away?”
also i have to say
flight-booking is a zero-fail task
no matter what the AI does i am obviously going to be cross-checking every single piece of it in intricate detail
having the AI do it literally doesn't even save me time
Now that the leading theories of Alzheimer's and dementia is that they're a response to infections (we aren't entirely sure which) damaging the brain, it sure would be nice if we tried to develop vaccines to more things, even those whose symptoms don't seem superficially so bad.