date sweet men. men who communicate instead of shutting down. men who can articulate their feelings. men who are soft spoken, calm, patient, kind, and gentle with you. men who respect you, themselves & know how to control themselves. men who make you feel safe, not anxious
Unfortunately, I’m a very needy girlfriend but not like “buy me this”, “get me that” type. It’s more like hold me, kiss me, cuddle me, call me, give me all of your attention
He sneezed so I turned and said "I can't believe i get to say this but Bless you" and he said "right on". And I swear it is the funniest calm I have ever experienced.
Date somebody who actually wants to experience LIFE with you. Not just dinner and sex. Museums, cooking classes, festivals, pottery, concerts, bookstores, road trips, EVERYTHING .
There’s a special kind of neurodivergent anxiety where someone can consistently seek you out, remember tiny things you said, compliment you, trust you with personal stuff, value your opinions, and willingly spend time with you… and your brain still goes:
“Okay, but are we sure they actually like me?”
Apparently evidence is not enough. 😭
i think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries it’s so weird, because it’s hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re just listening to your own feelings because you’re so used to only thinking about others
The older i get, the more i realize that someone making time for you is one of the clearest signs they care. Everyone is busy. Everyone has responsibilities and their own battles to fight. So when someone consistently chooses to spend their time with you, checks on you, and makes space for you in their life, it means something. time is one thing we can never get back, and people don't give it away lightly.