Talking to someone with a victim mindset can be really tiring. They usually blame other people or situations for their problems instead of looking at what they can do to fix things. Resentment is their default, and they are quick to point fingers when they’re unhappy.
You’ve got to be next level thick as pig shit if you think todays problems have been caused by a government that has been in power for 5 months and not the last 14 years.
#GeneralElectionNow
I’ve noticed I don’t have an issue communicating. My issue is people’s responses . It’s the lack of accountability and the one-sided perceptions that I cannot tolerate.
my biggest red flag is that i've normalized silent treatment when i'm not in mood for talk. i don't really know how to express my feelings especially when i'm sad and hurt. i only talk to myself in my head about how i feel all the time.
“Let me ask my partner” is actually deeply healthy in many scenarios and shows that the person values the input of their significant other. Y’all just don’t want to consider someone else and think being hyper independent and “you don’t own me!!!” Leads to a successful PARTNERship. Yes it’s dumb and can be controlling when it comes things like outfits or something. But if you aren’t ready to genuinely consider someone else’s feelings and input on an activity or event or whatever that realistically will impact you both, you aren’t ready for an adult partnership.
I owe myself a lil apology for being in spaces where I KNEW I wasn't respected, wanted, appreciated, loved, nor valued but instead I stayed for the sake of our history. I owe myself an apology for putting people who NEVER appreciated me before myself.
Your partner coming to you about something you’ve done wrong isn’t a personal attack. It’s a healthy sign they value the relationship and want to make it work – it's a heads up. You communicate, you fix it, you stay. That's emotional maturity. That's commitment. That's love.