@_firstoca My dad never liked the car.. always complaining about the noise to him because of the unnecessary announcement that comes with the car. My uncle as the goofy person he is will just laugh it off and change topic and start gisting. I miss him now that I remember this.
As a youth from a humble background, whilst you are struggling to make things better for yourself, don't let the motivational speeches of people born into wealth, leverage and connections make you feel you are not doing enough. If fate were to be switched, you would do better than most of them.
Take life slowly and appreciate the process.
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SEPARATION IS NOT DIVORCE; COHABITATION IS NOT MARRIAGE
On April 26, 2020, Nigeria lost Dr. Tosin Ajayi, founder and Chief Executive Officer of First Foundation Hospital, one of the country’s most respected private healthcare institutions. His passing was mourned nationally. But within weeks, mourning gave way to litigation.
What followed was not a dispute over medical legacy, but over a much older, unresolved matter: marriage. For the next five years, two women, their children, and the entire Ajayi estate were locked in court. The core question was deceptively simple: Who, under Nigerian law, was the legal wife?
The answer, delivered on March 13, 2026 by Justice Oluwayoyin Odusanya of the Lagos High Court, has now become a national case study. It is a verdict that restates, with painful clarity, a principle many Nigerians misunderstand: Separation is not divorce. Cohabitation is not marriage. And sentiment has no weight in probate court.
The Facts: A Marriage Never Legally Ended
Dr. Ajayi had separated from his first wife many years before his death. They lived apart. They built separate lives. To neighbors, friends, and even to Dr. Ajayi himself, the marriage was “over.” But no petition for dissolution was ever filed. No decree nisi was granted. No decree absolute was issued under the Matrimonial Causes Act, Cap M7, Laws of the Federation of Nigeria 2004.
Believing the union was effectively dead, Dr. Ajayi entered into another relationship and later married a second woman. He had children with her. She managed his home. She was presented socially as “Mrs. Ajayi.” For all practical purposes, she was the wife.
When Dr. Ajayi died intestate — without a will — both women came forward. The first wife returned to claim her position as legal spouse and administrator of the estate. The second woman countered, “Over my dead body. You abandoned him for years and only reappeared after his death to claim what you left behind.”
The Judgment: What the Court Actually Decided
After five years of evidence, arguments, and legal submissions, Justice Odusanya delivered a judgment that dismantled three common myths:
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Myth 1: “Long separation ends marriage.”
The court held: _“Separation, regardless of how long it lasts, does not automatically dissolve a legally valid marriage under the Act.”_ Under Section 15 of the Matrimonial Causes Act, only a court can dissolve a statutory marriage. Separation may prove “irretrievable breakdown,” but it is the judge’s decree, not the passage of time, that terminates the marriage.
Myth 2: “A registry wedding cures everything.”
Evidence showed the second woman was herself legally married to Mr. Davies at the time she allegedly married Dr. Ajayi. The court ruled that her purported marriage to Dr. Ajayi was void ab initio — void from the beginning. Section 47 of the Matrimonial Causes Act states that a marriage is void if either party is already lawfully married. Nigerian statutory marriage is strictly monogamous: one man, one woman. No exceptions.
Myth 3: “Children from the second union will protect her rights.”
The court affirmed that while all children of Dr. Ajayi, whether born within or outside the statutory marriage, are entitled to share in the remaining two-thirds of the estate under the Administration of Estates Law, the second woman herself had no spousal rights. She could not apply for Letters of Administration. She was not entitled to the statutory one-third share reserved for a legal spouse.
Final Orders: The first wife was declared the only legally recognized spouse. She is entitled to one-third of Dr. Ajayi’s personal estate and is the sole person entitled to apply for Letters of Administration. The rest of the estate will be divided among all of Dr. Ajayi’s children.
@Wizarab10 I pity people who don't listen to the truth all these while you have been saying it. Na until when they see wetin go make lucky udu post them before they learn.
I dont understand why a man is asked to go get married just because he has made money.
"You have a good job. You have a good apartment. You have money. What are you waiting for? Get yourself a woman."
Get a woman to do what? Getting married is not the problem, I have a problem with the monetary qualification. Why do I need money to get married and she comes as she is?
Marriage is a merger not an acquisition. Thus, your financial status is irrelevant. Whatever stage you are in life and you choose to commit, the parties come together to do life together, which means that the bills become one. Both income are family income and the couple put family first by investing both income to the success of the home. Marriage is not the acquiring of somebody to increase your burden and expenses.
Monday Legal Tip: Never sign a document simply because you trust the person presenting it. Trust is important; understanding what you’re signing is essential.