Chidinma

Christ Centered || Intellectually Curious || Choir Girl

[SEUN Durojaiye 🇳🇬 @DurojaiyeSegun]

During my postgraduate days at UNILAG, there was this guy who would always drive to lectures in his 2004 Toyota Corolla. He worked with FAAN.

Whenever exams were approaching, he would always want to borrow my notes and make photocopies because he liked the way I structured it. I had a way of highlighting important points and adding side notes, some of which would later turn out to be likely exam questions.

We had this particular course he had been battling with. At that point, his mindset was simply to write the exam, pass somehow, and probably end up with an E.

So I picked him up. We would have WhatsApp voice calls while going through the course materials together. We did it consistently, and we both ended up with an A.

He would usually tell me that if I ever needed anything, I shouldn't hesitate to let him know and that he would come through for me. Most times, I ignored the offer because I was also doing fine on my own.

About two years after our master's programme, I had a cousin who had graduated for years but was still struggling to secure employment. He had twice gotten a fully funded scholarship in the US and was denied visa twice. He also tried Australia and was denied three times.

He eventually gave Belgium a shot, got admission, and was required to present a blocked account, meaning he needed to show proof of a certain amount of money in a Belgian account. The amount was approaching €13,000.

He had nothing, and his resumption deadline was fast approaching.

He reached out to me. Even though he had never told me about his plans to travel, I decided to do everything I could.

I reached out to two of my friends in the UK, but they couldn't help because they were still trying to establish themselves t ground. I also contacted someone in the US who was on a fully funded scholarship. He told me his monthly stipend wasn't even up to $2,000 and that, after paying rent, he had less than $300 left.

Then something told me to reach out to my old master's classmate from UNILAG.

I narrated the situation to him. He asked me straight up, "How much do you need?"

I told him we needed €14,000 in a Belgian account.

He asked, "Will that be enough?"

The next day, he provided €14,000.

A few weeks later, my cousin's visa was approved. While he was heading to the airport, my same friet also gave him ₦2 million in cash, this time, a gift.

Today, my cousin has emmigrated to the US, happily married to an American woman who is also a scholar like him. They now have two children.

I have also become his go-to person for almost every thing he needs done in Nigeria. When he bought his first home in Maryland, Mende, Lagos, I was the one who went for the inspection, received the funds in my account for a Duplex, and handled the closing deal for him.

There is hardly anything I need today that my cousin wouldn't go the extra mile to do for me.

Life has a funny way of bringing people back into your life.

Sometimes, the person you think you are helping today may become the person who changes your life tomorrow.

Never underestimate the value of being genuinely useful to people.

Be useful. Be kind. Build genuine relationships. You never know when life will bring the same person back to you in a different season.

[Aji Bussu Onye Mpiawa azụ 🇨🇮 @AfamDeluxo]

I’m glad some of y’all are finally recognizing Adazion’s greatness. I’ve been trying to tell y’all this for years.

[Chidinma @en_nma]

He always has been

[EA has her PVC @virtuousii]

So when would be a good time to say that Peter is really fine?

[Chidinma @en_nma]

@GodknowsMercy @virtuousii Real 😂😂😂😂

[Chicken Catcher🐔 @Only1Etubo]

I think it is high time we talked about this.

As a family, it’s okay to have preferences about who is married into the family. Every family has its own dynamics and values.

We also need to understand that once people reach adulthood, they are old enough to make their own decisions. At that point, regardless of your relationship, your role is to advise, express your concerns, and share your perspective. That’s where your responsibility ends. Anything beyond is just you trying to control another person’s life.

If someone is determined to marry a particular person, you may have valid reasons for opposing the relationship. Voice your opinion. Explain your concerns. Help them understand why you believe it may not be the best decision. But at the end of the day, the choice is theirs to make.

Once they have made that decision, the best thing you can do is support them. They are still your family. That’s the purpose of family.

Abandoning them or treating their spouse with hostility because they married someone you didn’t approve of is a very stupid thing to do and it makes no sense whatsoever. It just creates division and resentment, and it undermines the foundation of what family is supposed to be.

Talk to your families. All that shit needs to stop in 2026.

[Man of Letters. @Letter_to_Jack]

Before you marry a man, study the ecosystem around him.

The latest episode of Peter Okoye’s tell-all should be a teachable moment, especially for single women.

Here is one uncomfortable truth about marriage:

If a man deeply loves you, but his family openly hates you, think very carefully before marrying him.

It’s not because his family must love you. Frankly, they don’t have to. The bare minimum is for them to respect and accept you. As their son’s wife!

But if the people closest to him have already made it clear that they do not accept you, and he is deeply attached to them, then take great caution.

Because, you are not just marrying the man. You are potentially marrying into a lifelong battle for acceptance. And in many cases, eventually, the family wins. If it becomes a battle of wills, with him becoming a permeable membrane for the tug of control between you and them, the ones whom he has known all his life would win 8 out of 10 times.

This is not necessarily because the man will stop loving you. Sometimes, it is because family pressure, emotional manipulation, guilt, loyalty and years of conditioning can wear even the strongest relationship down.

There is a Yoruba adage:

“Ọkọ buruku ṣèfẹ́, àna buruku ò ṣe ní.”

In essence: It is better to marry a man who may not be perfect but whose family respects and accepts you, than to marry a good man whose immediate family has already shown you deep hostility. Inlaw troubles will take your life, your peace and your sanity.

The point isn’t that you should marry someone whose family loves you and ignore the character of the man. The man still matters most.

The real lesson is this:

Before you marry a man, study the ecosystem around him.

Here are a few of the critical questions that would provide you all the clarity you need before making that lifetime decision:

1. Who influences him?

2. Can he set boundaries with his family?

3. Can he stand by his wife when his family is wrong?

4. Can he make decisions without needing their approval?

5. Can he withstand emotional blackmail?

6. Can he protect the marriage without turning every disagreement into a war between his wife and his family?

7. Is he respected enough by his family to know his decision and his resolve pertaining his personal life cannot be tested, and that any attempt to disrespect his wife would lead to problems they wouldn’t be able to control?

It’s important to ask these questions because there is a world of difference between:

“My family doesn’t like my wife, but I love her and I will protect my marriage.”

and

“My family doesn’t like my wife, and I love her, but I cannot go against my family.”

The first can work.

The second is a ticking time bomb.

There is, however, one important exception: if his family dislikes you but the man has genuinely detached himself from their control, has strong boundaries, cannot be manipulated into betraying you, and is prepared to build a new family unit with you, with no interference from the family, the marriage can absolutely work.

So, single women, understand this, love is important for a relationship to work, but love alone has never been enough. There are so many important questions to ask.

You can tell on your own whether he loves you or not, but the most comprehensive question is:

“Can he stand alone when loving me becomes inconvenient to the people he loves?”

Because love is beautiful. But marriage will test boundaries, loyalty, courage and independence far more than it tests feelings.

Sometimes the biggest question isn’t whether a man loves you.

Does your man have the strength and mentality required to build a life with you, that his family cannot control?

It is well with all of us.

[Chidinma @en_nma]

@RayoKasali @Flexylord_ @OneJoblessBoy Even if Peter did buy those cars, the money is his and he can do as he pleases with it. Well, it's obviously not in the statement because it was never sent to him and if Jude actually sent it from a different account, he should provide the statement.

[Chidinma @en_nma]

@Ifyblaze22 @Flexylord_ @OneJoblessBoy He is obviously telling lies

[Chidinma @en_nma]

@LoftyDreams_P @Flexylord_ @OneJoblessBoy Exactly my point. Whatever happens in an account reflects in the statement, down to every kobo

[Chidinma @en_nma]

@Flexylord_ @OneJoblessBoy That is the statement of Northside Entertainment's account where the money ordinarily should be sent from because he didn't give out such amount of money in cash.

[Chidinma @en_nma]

@Flexylord_ @OneJoblessBoy Even if he did send Peter the money like he is saying, should it not be in the statement of account that such money was sent to Peter?

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

The baby is only part of the birth. There's another birth that almost nobody talks about. The PLACENTA. For 9 months, your body grows an entirely new organ, an organ with one job keeping your baby alive. It delivers oxygen, nutrients, hormones, filters waste and connects two completely different circulatory systems without ever mixing your blood. Then, minutes after your baby is born that organ detaches from the wall of your uterus, and when it does, it leaves behind a wound roughly the size of a dinner plate. About 10 cm across, that is why you bleed after birth, because your body is healing a wound. At the same time, your uterus, which stretched enough to hold an entire baby, is working around the clock to shrink back down to its pre pregnancy size. Those after pains you're feeling those contractions, they are your uterus, squeezing itself smaller while compressing hundreds of open blood vessels to stop the bleeding. Now imagine this. If you had a wound that size anywhere else, on your body, on your arm, on your leg, your back, would anyone expect you to be back at work in a week? Would anyone expect you you to entertain visitors? Cook meals, carry a baby day and night smile for photos and get your body back, of course not. You'd probably be in the hospital on a drip. People would tell you to rest up. They'd expect weeks of recovery, yet when that exact wound is hidden inside your body, the world acts as though you should be back to normal almost immediately. 6 weeks later, you go for your postpartum, check up. Many women think it's a milestone that says, wow, you've recovered. It isn't. It's simply checking whether the bleeding has stopped, whether the placental wound has healed and whether your uterus is recovering as expected. It is not a certificate that says your body, brain, hormones, identity or even nervous system have all returned to normal. So if you've ever been wondering, why haven't I bounced back yet? Here's the better question why were you ever expected to bounce back from something this enormous in the first place? Your body is recovering from one of the most extraordinary healing processes a human being can experience. Give yourself some time and space to recover.

[Donald @RealDonaldDoo]

For those of you asking what happened to her.

Watch this.

Say a prayer for them.

[Dr. Ose Etiobhio @osemagnum]

menstruation. Women, listen up and learn about your body.

READ. PASTE ON YOUR DOOR. REPOST. SHARE. MEMORIZE THIS.

I want every female follower of mine to be so knowledgeable about their body, that when they are called to speak anywhere, they will represent very well.

Listen up!

Menstruation is the weeping of a disappointed womb. The Womb is disappointed there is no baby that month, so it cries.

The ovulatory and menstrual cycle go side by side.

when there is no fertilisation in a month, the womb lining gathers a lot of tears(thickens up for 14 days)... this is why this phase is a fixed number of days... this is the reason you subtract 14 from your cycle length to know when you ovulate(release egg)... this is called the secretory phase(gathering of tears) or progestational phase or luteal phase.

When the tears have gathered for 14 days, progesterone takes a leave of absence... this is why you feel bloated, breast pain and all... immediately progesterone leaves... the tears which have been building are now given permission to pour!...

This pouring is called menstruation... the first day is called your Last Menstrual period.

You bleed for 2-7 days and then the womb becomes dryer and getting ready for another ovulation.. this phase after menses is called the follicular phase. This is the best phase to do gynaecological procedures- hysteroscopies, myomectomy, endometrial biopsy... because this is the phase it bleeds least.

Always remember, Ovulation is not always on day 14. and for ladies who have PMOS/PCOS, the process of menstruation may be slightly different.

Ladies and gentle girls, this is menstruation. Take it from me. Cram this in your head... repeat it every morning... I give you the permission to print it out and paste on your doors... many women don't really understand their cycle... I'm sure they will at the end of this.

READ. SHARE. REPOST.

[Dr. Ose Etiobhio @osemagnum]

women, vagina is not vulva. Vulva is not vagina.

this is one of the best videos I use to teach.

[Nathaniel Bassey @nathanielblow]

Hello !
You might just need this.
Please Read.

When you work with a leader or someone that stretches you beyond your comfort zone, and truly wants you to be a better version of yourself,
You have no idea what God is doing for you.
My late mentor, Pastor Eskor Mfon was never really
a professional musician per se, but was a great worshipper and one that had an ear for good music.

He would come into our choir room after we had spent hours rehearsing. He’d sit, cross His legs, rest his jaws on his palm, close his eyes and listen to what we had done. After a while, he’d shake his head, smile and heave an interesting sigh “aaaaahhhh !”, and then say to us “okay okay well done o, but we can’t give God this kind of worship tomorrow, let’s start again…” And believe me, another 2-3 hours of work…. He’d tell us, “you know we can’t take people to a place we have not been to ourselves…”
He would share scriptures, explain what ministry was all about, then sit with us as we slugged it out.

Anyway, those days would later become the foundation of my music ministry today.

Hmmm, There were days I thought “this stress is just too much” just to lead worship ??? But what did I know ? Poor boy ! My eyes opened one day, and I caught it.

The inheritance I got from him was not money and material things, even though he took good care of us. But the values, principles, work ethic, mind shift, wisdom, spiritual intelligence and understanding, emphasis on prayer, word, purity, integrity, character, excellence etc.

Today I honour him everywhere I go, because in hindsight, He was God sent - To a young man who only had talent, but with very little or no sense of direction.

So, to anyone out there, connecting with this post and perhaps in a similar place, I say receive GRACE to maximize the moment. Learn and glean all you can now, never despise the process, instead appreciate and honour it. For not everyone is privileged to have another man or woman who leave their own thing to sit on your matter, just to make sure you excel in life. It is a blessing !

And in case it appears to be taking longer than it should, may be, just maybe. you are cut out for the BIG TIME. And in no distant future we would be reading your own inspiring story.

But Please note ! Only make sure the person or leader is one that meets the criteria above - I.e, one who truly desires to see a better version of you and wants you to fulfill your prophetic destiny. And Not just one who seeks to hijack your life, control it and put in under lock and key.
Blessings
🙂

[The journey of A Christian lady @ThejourneyofACL]

Blessed be the pain that leads you to God. It is worth far more than the happiness that leads you away from Him.

[Dunsin Oyekan of #Geni @DunsinOyekan]

A word for someone!

You have prayed and sowed… you are wondering what’s going on…

I’m led to tell you; THE LORD IS AT HAND! The Lord is near!

Meditate on Philippians 4’4-6

Blessings

[Pharaoh👳🏾‍♂️👑 @MrMekzy_]

Just a friendly reminder because social media will have you confused.

- Men need women.
- Women need men.
- 50/50, 100/0, 70/30 is cool - DO YOU!
- A cheater will cheat on anyone.
- Being single is fine if you're happy.
- There is nothing wrong with a 9-5.
- Health is wealth.
- Social Media is not real.

[Chidinma @en_nma]

@Only1Etubo 173