No. Helping you willingly, is not synonymous to giving you freely.
It's stepping in for you, when you need support.
Always take your wife's financial assistance as a debt.
Even if you may not be able to pay back all, pay back some.
You'll sustain your respect & her kindness.
We humans are very quick to feel entitled to someone else's stuff. Especially when this person is family.
Truth is, when a woman continue to give and not demand back from her husband, that man gradually becomes enabled. He is now unashamedly and unapologetically entitled to whatever you have.
When you stop giving he starts to resent you. Because he now feels entitled and is used to it.
Support your partner as a woman but do not assume the role of a man.
Men should learn to only rely and not depend on matter how much she earns or has.
Many men have successfully lost their crowns in their homes because they are too greedy lazy and dependent.
Being dependent on her is like transferring your authority gradually as head of the home.
And once you carelessly and shamelessly transfer your authority to a woman, she does not let go!
It's not your house if your wife pays for the rent, or she built it.
You're a tenant or a squatter.
But it's your house & your wife's house, if you pay for the rent, or you built it.
You're a landlord or a house owner.
"I am in my husband's house", is a big flex.
"I am in my wife's house" is a big disgrace.
Cry a river.
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@officialABAT Bola, you are a disgrace.
It took you days to declare state of emergency in Rivers, just because you wanted to politically bully the Governor.
It has taken you 2 years and 6 months to do same for security crisis.
No one is taking you serious until you arrest men like Gumi.
@nimc_ng what is really going on with you people? For days now Nigerians can't get their NIN because your workers said there is no network. What sort of Network are you people using that is always down.
I have consistently maintained that our underdevelopment is due to Leadership failure.
It is heartbreaking that our President, who is the leader of a country with the highest number of out of school children in the world and with the students in the capital of his own nation Abuja presently not attending schools, would travel to St. Lucia and offer scholarships to children there, while his own country’s education system is in ruins, and even currently his nation’s capital, the Federal Capital Territory, the supposed seat of governance, have public schools shut down and closed for months.
This is not leadership, it is negligence at its peak. It is an act of betrayal against the Nigerian child.
Nigeria has approximately 20 million children out of school, according to UNICEF, the highest number globally, with a literacy rate of under 60% far below the global average of 87%. Similarly, the life expectancy stands at a mere 54 years, out of the global average measurement of above 70 years, one of the lowest in the world.
On Human Development Index (HDI), which is the most critical measure of development, Nigeria is ranked in the "Low Category" at 161 out of 193 countries measured, while St. Lucia, a Caribbean nation, has a literacy rate of over 90% which is above the global average of 87%.
In life expectancy of more than 72 years, which is within the global average.
On HDI which Nigeria is in the Low category, they air in the "High Category"
So tell me, what sense does it make that a president of a country with such terrible and dire statistics would travel to a country with better indexes of development especially in education and still offer them scholarships funded by Nigerian taxpayers when Nigeria children are largely out of school and the teachers not yet paid for months?
Mr. President, by offering St Lucia students a scholarship, shows he knows how important education is, while depriving Nigerian students of the same access to education.
We must, as a nation, reject these continued normalisations of misplaced priorities and build a better nation for us and our children.
A New Nigeria is POssible. -PO
This morning, I shared a DM from lady who had a conversation with her mother.
The mother told her that a woman should sometimes act like a "dunce" when she's in a relationship or marriage.
Over the years, and in my experience dealing with women, I have observed that most