One thing about adulthood that way too many people learn way too late (and have no choice but to learn the hard way): you have to be deliberate/proactive about everything. For the first time in your life, you can't be passive participant in anything.
Not to sound delusional, but please pray for grace. Life isn't really about hard work. It's more about meeting the right people, grace, mercy, and favour.
This is the new lie niggas are telling themselves to cope with the fact that nowadays, most women are not waiting for marriage to go on trips and have their own homes. It's so hard for these man to acknowledge women just don't need them like that to do well in today's world