Being rude helps neither the Customer nor the Business Owner.
Please drop that bad behavior this year.
I have worked with a few people who are older and successful and they use "Please" and "Thank you" for the slightest things.
There's a lesson in being courteous. Selah.
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Some of us are considered/consider ourselves "intellectuals or intelligent" Nigerians and question privately or publicly PO's ability to solve the magnitude of NGN problems.
Logically, one would think anyone who is guaranteed to change Nigeria has to prove it thoroughly. Right?
Our current president lacks heavily in all 3 but some of us believe that Peter Obi who obviously has 1&3 has to sufficiently prove to us that he can solve the majority of Nigeria's problems. A position he has never held before.
Peter Obi came to the Arise TV studio well-prepared. He brought his handover notes & left them with the anchor, Mr. Charles Aniagolu.
He granted Arise the full permission to publish all the documents for the entire world to see.
He backed everything up with verifiable proof, he listed the specific bank names & account numbers where the funds were domiciled.
Then he went ahead & urged Charles Aniagolu & Arise studio to contact both the World Bank office in Abuja & the respective Nigerian banks to verify the contents of the documents.
This level of accountability is unprecedented in a place like Nigeria, where public trust is absent
In contrast, Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu has yet to account for the loan obligations & allocations he received during his tenure as the governor of Lagos State. He has never granted an interview to give account of his stewardship in Alausa.
He is yet to account for fuel subsidy savings & all the money he has borrowed since 2023.
He remains silent regarding Alpha Beta, the company used by the Lagos State Government for tax collection. Nigerians, the choice is clear.
Vote for trust & accountability, vote for Mr. Peter Obi & take your country back. ๐๐
@Thecreativemena Lol, the hypocrisy. You're shooting at PO without realizing that you yourself is guilty of poor analysis, maybe arguably a poorer one. This is not a truly intelligent take.
Romance, to me, isn't about testing my mans patience or seeing how much he'll tolerate. It isn't a competition to find out how much he can sacrifice before he breaks.
Romance is making each other feel safe and secure. It's being thoughtful. Paying attention to the little details. Remembering how they take their coffee, checking in after a hard day, bringing them their favourite snack for no reason, making each others lives a little softer.
The little things matter far more than performative grand gestures for social media likes ever will.
Love shouldn't feel like a test.
5 things people casually dismiss as "the bare minimum" that are actually rare, valuable, and should never be taken for granted.
Consistency.
Everyone says they want consistency. But very few people actually offer it. Showing up the same way every day, regardless of mood or circumstance, is not easy. It requires discipline, emotional regulation, and a deep sense of commitment. Consistency is not the bare minimum. It is the foundation of trust. And without it, nothing else stands.
Emotional availability.
Being present, engaged, and willing to have hard conversations is not automatic. It requires self awareness, healing, and courage. Many people are emotionally unavailable and do not even know it. So when someone shows up ready to connect, ready to listen, ready to be vulnerable, that is not the bare minimum. That is a gift. And it is rarer than people admit.
Respect in conflict.
Anyone can be nice when things are going well. But it takes emotional maturity to remain respectful when you are angry, hurt, or triggered. People who can disagree without name calling, without gaslighting, without raising their voice, are not doing the bare minimum. They are doing the work.
Active listening.
Not just hearing. Not just waiting for your turn to speak. But actually listening to understand. That is a skill. It requires patience, presence, and the willingness to set your ego aside. Most people are too busy thinking about their response to truly hear you. So when someone listens like your words matter, that is not the bare minimum. That is rare. And it is precious.
Taking accountability without excuses.
Saying "I was wrong" with no "but" attached is not easy. It requires humility, self reflection, and the ability to sit with discomfort. Many people would rather lose a relationship than admit they made a mistake. So when someone owns their mess, apologizes sincerely, and actually changes their behavior, that is not the bare minimum. That is emotional intelligence.
We need to stop calling these things bare minimum. Because when we do, we devalue the people who actually show up. We make it seem like their effort is expected, not appreciated. The truth is many people cannot offer these things. They do not have, the healing, or the self awareness. So when you find someone who can, do not take them for granted. Recognize it for what it is. Rare.
the truest signs of emotional intelligence is discernment. you may understand exactly why someone does what they do.
you see their patterns, their pain, their past, you can connect all the dots and see the bigger picture but you don't allow your empathy to override your self respect. just because you can understand why someone is treating you poorly doesn't mean you have to continue tolerating it. true emotional intelligence doesn't excuse hurtful behavior. it allows you to see someone's complexities while also discerning what's yours to hold vs what's theirs to heal.
at the end of the day, it's a win win. empathy without boundaries isn't emotional intelligence, it isn't love but it's self abandonment.