Can you talk to whoever you want, regardless of whether they like you or not?
You are not in the middle.
Do you get tense, nervous, judgy, and resentful when talking to people?
You probably sit somewhere in the middle.
WOW.
Was a tad skeptical at first but remained open to all possibilities.
Started conversing back and forth, and before I knew it, was in DEEP. Talking about goals, what commonly comes up in me, mother/father voices and so forth.
The flow to it was effortless and natural. Rarely do I find someone who remains grounded and unbiased when discussing topics like these.
By the end of our session I was at peace and deeply contented...
Radwa explores the 'deep end' delicately and at your own pace.
Will definitely speak to her again...
Thank you Radwa 🙏
With love,
Marco
The fastest way to beat social anxiety is cocaine, alcohol and MDMA.
“Wtf?!”
Yep…
People use them to express themselves freely. They allow you to do things you wouldn’t normally do, so u can feel things you wouldn’t normally feel.
They allow you to do whatever you want.
Else why would you do them?
“To have a good time?”
So they allow you to have a good time?
“Yea…”
What’s a good time?
“Being chill and relaxed…. easier to be myself and talk to people”
So they let you relax so you can talk to people?
“yea?”
Why can’t you relax and talk to people sober?
“Idk… It’s just different”
So you take them to express yourself freely, because you find it hard to do so when sober?
“Yea guess so.”
Have you tried expressing yourself freely when sober?
“Uhhh no, cause it’s not normal”
What’s not normal?
“Being myself freely… People find it weird”
So it’s weird to be yourself freely when sober, but not when drunk… why is that?
“I care when I’m sober, I get nervous and overthink. Alcohol relaxes me and i dont care as much”
So the challenge is expressing yourself while sober. Because you’re more sensitive to the reactions of others. Therefore drinking makes u less sensitive, so you can be yourself…
It makes sense. You’ve hidden aspects of yourself for so long. You were told not to be weird, silly, and strange. The ego has contained your weird side, so the world accepts you, because acceptance = I’m ok.
You’ve been accepted for hiding. Leaving aspects of yourself to not be accepted. Yet they still remain.
That’s why you drink, do drugs and need conditions to do so…
Social anxiety exists in the gap between who you show the world you ‘are’, and who you actually are?
That you get anxious because you’re scared people will reject who you really are?
And that you can embrace your feared hidden aspects (being goofy, weird, expressive, artistic, whatever it is)
By giving yourself permission to be seen as these things?
In doing this you free yourself of the fear because YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE. Somebody not liking you has no weight. They have the right to not vibe with you, just like you have the right to not vibe with them.
Time is continuing and new things are happening every single moment. Are you ready to embrace yourself, in its entirety?
Start, by giving yourself permission to be everything you’re afraid of.
Repeat this with each fearful thought - “I give myself permission to be [weird and unique] when talking to people.”
With love ❤️🔥
“I don’t know what to say”
“How do I start a conversation”
As soon as you get out of your head via nervous system regulation by working through your fears.
You will laugh at how easy it always was…
There’s literally infinite things to talk about.
Flow = relaxed = present.
Crazy thing about life is that everything happens in one moment. This MOMENT right NOW, where you’re reading this, and I’m writing this…
The same moment you were born and the same moment you will die.
It’s more of an ‘unfolding’ when you see it this way. Like everything that happens is new and spontaneous. Upon grounding yourself on this realisation, it makes you ponder… Anything you tell yourself you’ll ‘sort out later’ or ‘need to fix but not ready’ will all be confronted in this moment. Your ego just opted for the easier option. It’s like going hiking and realising you overpacked 5 minutes in to the walk. Instead of confronting the setback and offloading the extra baggage. You decide you can’t be bothered. So you carry 7kgs of unnecessary weight to the top of the mountain. When you finally arrive you’re broken and bruised. You realise it would’ve been faster and easier if you just let go of the baggage in the first place.
It’s interesting, sometimes in life to go forwards you must first go backwards…
Many examples of this…
♾️
Can you talk to whoever you want, regardless of whether they like you or not?
You are not in the middle.
Do you get tense, nervous, judgy, and resentful when talking to people?
You probably sit somewhere in the middle.