TIPS FOR SUBS before sending the first message (especially if you’re anxious about doing so!!!):
-have your age verification READY!!
(Yoti link, verified creator profile, or ID & selfie). send this before/alongside your initial DM. if you aren’t getting age verified, do not trust that dom/me.
-have your tribute ready. study the profile of the dom/me you are sending to.
if you don’t have any of their payment methods, CREATE THEM. don’t wait for a reminder, or you may just get ignored.
-familiarize yourself with your dom/me’s kinks before reaching out.
if you want a specific kind of dynamic, you should be resourceful (and intentional about communicating) first.
-do not expect anything other than plain responses and/or irritability if you haven’t said anything but “Hi” or “Hello” or “Menu”.
make a perfect first impression!! stand out if you want to be noticed. what attracted you to this specific dom/me? why do you want to serve THEM? what’s so irresistible about them?
-don’t DM and expect a session immediately.
dynamics take trust, and trust takes time to build up. if you’re looking for something quick, go support by buying content. if you are looking to SUBMIT, patience is key!!!! let your dom/me get to know you. not everyone likes the same kinks, and if you’re like me, i have a LOT of them!!! never assume your tribute is enough for a session.
-act without being told.
whether it comes to AV, tribute, filling out a sub application, subscribing on a paid site.. anything, you will always make a better impression if you are respectful and resourceful.
-leave your old dynamics in the past.
your new dom/me should absolutely be interested in any previous dynamics and what worked and what didn’t work!! however, if you expect any dom/me to cater to your every need because you lost your old dom/me.. tough luck. you are not in charge. make sure you’re not pushing the idea of a “perfect dom/me” in your dynamic.. it’s self sabotage.
now go and reach out to your favorite domme!! 🫂🤍