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Remember:
It's completely valid to acknowledge
someone's apology but still need space.
You do not have to forgive someone simply
because they apologized.
An apology is not:
'I'm sorry you feel that way"
"It was just a joke"
"No one else would be upset over this"
"You're taking it wrong"
"You know I love you"
"I'm sorry but..
"I was just kidding"
"I'll say sorry if you..
"I didn't know you were so sensitive"
"Let's just drop it"
An apology is:
• Saying the words, "I am sorry."
• Admitting you were at fault
• Taking accountability for the pain you caused
• Listening without defensiveness
• Committing to changing your behaviors.
"Next time time I will.
• Going through with the commitment
Trauma is an experience, not a diagnosis.
People w/ trauma in their history may come w/ a wide range of diagnoses-- which may or may not include PTSD.
We have to start thinking more broadly & contextually about the impact of trauma on emotional & behavioral health.
Communication isn’t the only answer to successful relationships. We need comprehension & consistency just as much.
Communication can only get us so far but if we’re not consistently trying to understand what our partners are communicating, we’re setting ourselves up for failure
Reminder: your relationship doesn’t have to be toxic for you to leave it. Your partner doesn’t have to have toxic qualities for you to feel unhappy or unfulfilled. If your relationship isn’t what you need, you don’t have to justify staying just because things are not “that bad.”
Often, the things we are hard on ourselves for as adults are connected to a time in our past when we felt helpless or unsafe. We use the past as motivation to avoid this lack of control from happening again.
i.e: “I don’t need anyone” stems from not wanting to get hurt again
Respectfully, after the last two years I think we’re beyond the “is anyone else having trouble concentrating with everything going on” phase and need to be asking why we’re upholding a culture that expects us to carry on business as usual
Therapy is more than that weekly scheduled appointment that you attend. Therapy is a conscious decision to heal from past and recent emotional wounds. Therapy is building & adding tools to your coping skills and self-care toolbox.
"I'm an adult, I shouldn't be struggling w/ conflicts & patterns from when I was a kid!"
If you broke your leg when you were a kid & didn't get the care you needed to heal correctly, I guarantee you'll still be struggling w/ it years later.
Same w/ emotional "leg breaks."
The NYPD deleted this tweet, but the fact is they proudly displayed having caught people who took diapers and cough medicine.
Basic. Necessities.
This is not public safety. This is cruelty on display.