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I lost my child through manipulation from their other parent and the ignorance of safeguarding professionals. #familyrightsadvocate #safeguardingchildren

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

#psychologicalabuse #narcissisticabuse #postseparationabuse #weaponisationofchildren #darvo #emotionalcutoff #childpsychologicalabuse #spousalpsychologicalabuse #abuse #emotionalabuse #borderlineabuse #consciousparenting #highconflictdivorce #thinkfamily #hostileparenting

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

@MyClickInTime @karenmitchell__ Not just mothers.

[Dr Karen Mitchell PhD @karenmitchell__]

Dark personalities (narcissists, psychopaths) who are higher functioning and have better impulse control capability will not risk their freedom by killing people physically. They murder people emotionally, psychologically, by destroying their reputations, their relationships with their children, their social support networks, their confidence, their will to live.
High functioning narcissists, psychopaths (human predators) are just as dangerous and harmful as those in prison for murder. They just murder in ways that are more covert.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Narcissistic abusers make their victim sound like a monster so nobody notices they’re actually attacking and abusing an innocent person unprovoked.

[stu @stuart268]

They would rather abuse their own children than coparent , no thought given about the children. #aberdeen #childabusers

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

…separately I’ve asked through Talking Therapies and finally heard back today. They closed my case so I can be referred for higher intensity support. Finally feel like people are starting to see the damage of the coercive control and post separation abuse I’ve been through.

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

My current therapy was sourced through work: 30 min sessions and 6 of them. Less than I’ve ever been given and not consistent between session/no goal or plan. I’d asked for trauma informed therapy…

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

@shadows_control All the time. He took me to Relate early in our relationship and the counsellor told me I needed to be more interesting. Actually he wanted me to think I was a problem, unworthy of him. In truth he was not worthy of me.

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

I’ve been quiet recently. Sending complaints is draining and has had a physical and mental health impact. I’ve been having some therapy. Tonight to hear my therapist tell me that what I have been experiencing these past couple of decades is control made me feel seen.

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

@stuart268 Same goes for male narcissists.

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

…nor any recognition that a 16 year old should be protected by the Children Acts 1989/2004.

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

I’ve heard back from the Ombudsman for Children’s Services. They won’t review my complaint because I missed the 12 month deadline. I missed it because I was so traumatised I didn’t have the capacity to write my complaint until 4 years after the event…

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

…there was no acknowledgment of the domestic abuse my son and I had been put through, nor that children align with a coercive abuser…

[Charlie McCready @Charlie_PACoach]

Take the Parental Alienation Survey using this link:
https://t.co/sTR8cDIJYU

[Charlie McCready @Charlie_PACoach]

The Alienated Parent Survey is already revealing an important early pattern: so far, 77% of responses have come from mothers, and 23% from fathers.

This doesn’t tell us that alienation affects mothers more than fathers. It shows us who is currently coming forward to share their experience.

In many areas of research, women are more likely to participate in surveys and support-based initiatives, which can shape early findings. Fathers, particularly those dealing with alienation, are often less visible and less likely to step forward, despite experiencing the same patterns of loss, confusion, and disruption in their relationship with their children.

To build an accurate, evidence-led picture of what is really happening across families, we need to hear from both mothers and fathers.

If you are a father who has experienced this, your voice is essential.

Please take part, and share with others who may be able to do the same.

👉 Go to the link in the comments to answer the survey.

#parentalalienation #FamilyCourt

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

When your friend tells you your alienated child's head is in a good place. And you know your upbringing is part of the reason they're not crazy like their other parent.

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

@stuart268 I'm not so sure it is bipolar. My ex was diagnosed with bipolar until he stopped taking his lithium and had no serious mania or depression. He was then rediagnosed - with NPD. His psychiatrist spent several consultations getting to the diagnosis and it was a much better fit.

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

@stuart268 Unfortunately it is far too easy to make false allegations now and safe parents find themselves separated from children needlessly due to a risk averse safeguarding culture. Too little professional curiosity.

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

Same if it is children's allegations - no one will believe you if you're an adult.

[🦴💀🔥blubber_bones 🔥💀🦴 @blubber_bones]

First of all everybody is automatically believing the women the files are more about getting a list of all of the men involved so they can be held accountable second maybe if there wasn't an epidemic of women who lie about victimhood for power and profit it would be easier to...

[reann @redpepper1011]

International Women’s Day is a moment to honour women who speak up, especially mothers of disabled children who are punished instead of supported when they ask for help. Mothers of disabled children who are blamed
Many mothers of disabled or seriously ill children report that when they ask local authorities or services for support, they are met with suspicion and blame rather than care. Research in England has described a “culture of parent‑carer blame”, where guidance and practice focus on child protection and parental fault instead of the distinct support needs of disabled children and their families. Instead of being recognised as carers doing complex, exhausting work, these mothers can be treated as if they are the problem, with requests for respite, equipment, or assessments interpreted as signs of parental inadequacy. There are documented cases of mothers being wrongly accused of Fabricated or Induced Illness (FII) when they persist in trying to get appropriate diagnosis and care for their child. In one legal case, a council accepted a settlement after an ombudsman found an “inexperienced” and “overzealous” social worker had tried to force a disabled child’s situation into FII criteria, causing distress to mother and child instead of providing meaningful support. Parent‑carer organisations have warned that such patterns are not isolated, but part of wider systems that routinely deny proper assessment of support needs and then turn to investigation and blame.
Misuse of “mental health” against mothers
When mothers challenge decisions, question unsafe practices, or simply insist on their disabled child’s rights, professionals may pathologise them rather than listen. Labels such as “anxious”, “over‑protective”, “difficult”, or suggestions that a mother has mental health problems are sometimes used to discredit her evidence and shut down her advocacy, rather than as a route to genuine help. This misuse of “mental health” language can become a weapon: instead of trauma‑informed support, women can experience surveillance and threat, knowing that anything they say may be twisted into a question about their stability or parenting.[maternalmentalhealthalliance +2]
Broader work on maternal mental health shows that stigma and fear of being judged as a “bad mother” already stop many women from speaking openly about how they feel. Surveys of new and expectant mothers find that a significant minority do not feel able to talk to anyone about their mental health, and nearly half of those cite fear of judgement as the reason. For mothers in complex situations – poverty, racism, disability in themselves or their children – this fear is intensified by the very real risk that services may respond with blame, child protection action, or withdrawal of support rather than compassion. Harm, trauma and suicide
The combination of constant caring responsibilities, lack of practical support, adversarial encounters with services, and stigma around mental health creates dangerous levels of stress for many mothers of disabled children. Advocacy and disability groups have documented how disabled parents and mothers of disabled children face discrimination and hostility from social workers and family courts, describing an “uphill battle” to stop children being removed. Living for years under threat, disbelief, and bureaucratic obstruction can erode a woman’s sense of safety, dignity, and hope. We also know from inquests and investigations that system failures in mental health and social care contribute to women taking their own lives. Families have spoken publicly about loved ones who died by suicide shortly after being discharged from psychiatric care or left without proper ongoing support, with coroners identifying serious failings in care and service delivery. Campaigners whose daughters died in mental health units have called for legal reform and better training, highlighting how women’s needs – including those with autism or complex needs –

[expert by experience 💙 @expbyexp]

@Arantes_Cesar @BrianAtlas I haven't humiliated anyone, or lied. I haven't provoked anyone to go berserk. You've just shown you're an abuser who doesn't take responsibility, nor do you have any insight.