The narcissist’s power depends on your not seeing them. The moment you see clearly, their power collapses. That’s why they work so hard to keep you confused. Clarity is their greatest enemy.
Human predators (narcissists, psychopaths) with pathological envy ‘study’ their victims with intense ferocity. They watch who their target interacts with, they track their social media accounts, they observe the way they speak and present and express themselves. They closely study their life choices and lifestyle.
It is the sickest form of obsession.
I hesitate to call it stalking because it’s not stalking in the way we think of stalking.
The objective of the human predator is to delete, cancel, destroy the target of their envy and to BECOME that target.
The predator wants the accolades or the social presence or the qualifications or the lifestyle etc of their pathological envy target and the objective is to destroy the target so they can be them.
The human predator/dark personality starts to copy their target’s wording, their expressions, their life choices. They befriend the friends of the target. They may frequent places that the target frequents.
At the same time they begin to destroy their target’s life. They accuse them of things they haven’t done. They undermine them privately and publicly. They track down people in their target’s life and communicate with them, undermining their target. The level of false narrative is extraordinary. The brazenness and willingness to enter someone else’s life is next level. The campaign of destruction is relentless.
It’s one of the creepiest and most horrifying experiences.
The hatred of the predator is felt by the target like a blanket of destructive intent.
It is palpable and potent.
The target fears for their life.
The campaign of destruction has a profoundly unhinged tinge to it.
Every time the target receives an accolade or puts their head above the parapet, the level of undermining and abuse from the predator escalates.
If the target dares to collect information on the predator which demonstrates their predatory nature and behaviours which harm, the undermining and abuse from the predator escalates.
Pure evil.
WHEN A NARCISSIST IS LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE, THEY OFTEN DISPLAY PATTERNS OF DECEPTION, MANIPULATION, AND INCONSISTENCY. HERE ARE SOME KEY SIGNS TO WATCH FOR:
"Narcissists have secret lives. They lie effortlessly. They are two faced-appearing with a perfect public image that most people believe. In the shadows, when no one is looking, they do tremendous damage to their families including their own children"
You cannot get a narcissist to genuinely apologize because a genuine apology requires three things they don't have.
Accountability.
Empathy.
The ability to sit with shame.