dear friends. if you're seeing this message i've successfully drifted into a deep cryogenic sleep in one of the storage bins at vibecamp to save money on next year's ticket and forestall vibe decay. plz remember to revive me in one year's time with befitting ceremony and mirth 🙏🏼
So my dad has been ending every phone call with "stay dangerous" instead of "goodbye" for like six months now. We all thought he was just being a weird dad. Turns out he's been mishearing the ending of a podcast he listens to. The host says "stay curious" but my dad is slightly deaf in one ear. He's been going around telling his coworkers, my grandmother, and apparently his DOCTOR to "stay dangerous" this entire time. My mom only found out because his doctor called to check if everything was okay at home. My dad has now decided he likes his version better and refuses to stop. Yesterday he told a nun to stay dangerous.
"The danger is not lest the soul should doubt whether there is any bread, but lest, by a lie, it should persuade itself that it is not hungry." (Simone Weil)
"The value of a religious or, more generally, a spiritual way of life is appreciated by the amount of illumination thrown upon the things of this world." (Simone Weil)
"In most cases, those who become famous have to cooperate with the forces that propel them to fame, and they are usually bent in the process." (Ken McLeod)
this is like a real and interesting thing passed through multiple layers of flanderization and goodharting (many such cases). it's exciting to understand that people have so much more freedom in conversation than they think they do, and, when the real thing isn't conveyed with nuance it becomes "top 5 conversational hacks to skip the small talk and get real" instead of a real education in the skill of building rapport, following aliveness, cultivating interest in and curiosity about other people, playfully increasing vulnerability
people who want to skip the small talk are people who aren't willing to do the work of actually encountering another person and meeting them where they are. it's exactly analogous to wanting to skip foreplay. and it's a skill issue. you can already have a lot of fun with small talk if you just git gud!