That feeling when they think you are trying to win an argument, when the entire time you just want them to understand your perspective. It is truly exhausting.
i saw a girl on tiktok who said "accountability is so important to me. nobody's perfect, but don't try to flip the script and make my reaction the issue when your actions lit the match" and i felt this to the core.
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. And eventually, the bill comes due.
If I'm being honest, half the things I went through are in fact because of me: my lack of discipline, not listening to my gut feelings, and my poor decision-making.