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Dr. Anya Robert’s Counter-Terrorist and Counter-Insurgency Expert
Can a man find his wife sexually unattractive and still love her?
My answer is No.
A man does not even need to love his wife, for him to be sleeping with her.
In marriage, sex is a duty.
And not necessarily an obligation.
It's a duty because it's affiliated with roles, positions, and moral and ethical standards that marriage is expected to uphold.
It's not necessarily an obligation, because it may be seen as being legally forced to indulge in it to avoid some form of punishment.
Meaning, it may not be a consensual act.
Love is ephemeral in marriage.
It may be there, or it may not be there.
But the couple must be intentionally committed to each other.
"I married this woman, I don't have to love her, but I owe her a duty of care, protection, provision and sex"
That's why you're her husband.
If you deny your wife of sex, what you're doing in essence is dereliction of duty. You're willfully being negligent of her emotional or sexual needs.
Can you as a married man, stay for one or two months without sex?
Especially when you're not even far away from your wife?
Where are you getting sex from if you've not been sleeping with your wife for months?
Now flip it.
Can a married woman stay without sex for months?
Especially when she's not far away from her husband?
Where is her husband expecting her to get sex from?
You cannot tell me that blood is not flowing in her veins, or that she is no longer attractive to you as her husband.
If you don't see her sexually attractive to you anymore, it's because you're not taking good care of her.
You cannot use the excuse of her breasts getting sagged or her stomach not being flat anymore to deny her of sex.
Those are the "scars" of motherhood, which you put on her. You must embrace those scars and appreciate her body the way it is.
As long as your wife is not recalcitrant, or that you have caught her cheating, or that she is not dirty, you should not deny her of sex.
And if you're a kind provider, you'd further keep her in the mood and constantly or ever ready to accept you into her bosom & "Jerusalem".
Being a pastor or Imam should not be used as an excuse either.
You cannot be denying your wife of sex in the name of "I am praying to God to grant me my wish, so I have to abstain from sex".
God himself ordained marriage.
And he blessed your vows and covenant.
So stop using religion as an escape route.
Go and fuck your wife.
End.
Nothing is as painful to a man who once dated you, & who made you feel like you were nothing, as seeing that you've moved on & are doing better without him.
He'll gaslight you & try to manipulate your feelings with pitiful words, just so you can come back.
He's a loser.
End.
In marriage, there are two leaders.
The husband and the wife.
The husband leads from the front and the wife leads from behind.
When the man leads from the front, he becomes the head of the home.
When the woman leads from behind, she becomes the neck of the home.
The head will not stand without the neck.
And will not survive too.
The neck determines the direction of the head.
But the head must signal to the neck which way to turn.
Because the head is where the brain resides.
And the brain determines what the neck does.
If the brain is malfunctioning, it would give the neck the wrong signals.
So do not expect the neck to take full responsibility for the neck's failure.
End.