wake ittttt
i hate the concept of being unbothered sm like pls i am a red hot blooded passionate woman i will scream and yell and cry if i need to, but most importantly i will have dominion over my emotions & consciously work thru them
unlearn shame. all forms of shame: unemployment, illness, vulnerability, longing, desire, errors, failures. you do not need to feel ashamed of what you are experiencing or living. freedom and shame cannot coexist.
Triangulation is a fetish for most men. The younger woman. The girl he claims he can’t unfollow. The coworker “obsessed” with him. If a man pits you against other women, leave, cuz the last thing you want to be is the woman holding hands with the creep who stares at other girls.
exactly. pls date people who thinks highly of u & puts u in highest regard. they should inspire u rather than belittling u. someone actually loving u makes u do things u are excited about- arts, hobbies, your dreams. they make you feel life is possible rather than restricting it
I dated a man so inspiring that he made ME feel like wow I gotta step my cookies up. He had like everything I was looking for in a guy but we don’t talk anymore and that’s fine bc I did in fact step my cookies up afterwards and I’m better for the experience.
And actually, I thank God he never made me a loser who gets intimidated by another woman’s beauty, personality, or accomplishments, and made me one of those who get inspired, encouraged, and uplifted by a strong presence.
Your heart is not a state secret. You are meant to declare allegiances. You are meant to have favourites. Write the letter. Miss the train. Stay up until dawn talking. You should be caught red-handed loving something, someone.
my friend who's now committed for over 4 years very casually in a conversation told me, "you don't change your partner, you accept them as they are but also your partner should consciously change for you to be a better human and a lover"
i was flabbergasted.
Imagine losing access to my laugh, my weird questions, my uplifting reminders, the way I see life, the depth of my conversations, my spark and most of all, my love and presence.
Someone said “The slow burn of becoming yourself” and I think that might be one of the most beautiful things I have ever heard. It’s such a good reminder of how much it takes, how much character development, how much change, and beauty and courage it takes to reach your soul and I hope no one ever gives up on becoming themselves because it’s a never ending journey that only gets better.
Never ignore me. You can tell me you don't want to talk. You can tell me you need space. Whatever the case may be. Radio silence is a hard limit for me. It touches a very vulnerable place in me.