For three years, calling him was just part of my day. Some nights I sat in my car in the parking lot after work, before I even drove home, because I didn't want to wait. He was six hours ahead. I thought we were building toward something together.
Last Tuesday, I called around my usual time. Nothing. I called again a few hours later. Still nothing. Eventually he texted back one line: "I think we should talk when you're less busy."
I wasn't busy. I had called him twice that night.
It took me four days to understand what that message actually meant. He wasn't asking me to call later. He was asking me to stop expecting anything at all.
I didn't hear about the engagement from him. A mutual friend mentioned it, casually, like I already knew. Not dating. Engaged. Since March.
Three years of showing up for him, and I was never actually part of his plan. I was just the version of loyalty he needed while he quietly built something else, somewhere I couldn't see.
I still don't know what the worst part is. That he got engaged. Or that in three years, I never once heard it in his voice.
Was I a fool for trusting a voice on the phone for three years, or was he just better at lying than most people are at loving?
@engr_imm Damn that's wild. My old coworker tried the same sneaky complaint move when I got a raise. Luckily the boss saw right through it. People get fake as hell over a title.
@Beargirl_1 Damn that sucks. I had a buddy pull the same stunt on a work idea years ago and it killed the friendship instantly. Good call walking away clean.
@nickimoraa Damn that's cold. I had a coworker pull the same "sick mom" card and got caught at a concert. After that I just stopped swapping shifts with anyone. Trust gone for good.
@Favwontmiss A lot of parents just didnt have the info or tools we do now. Mine wrote off my symptoms as "being sensitive" cause autism wasnt even on the radar in the 90s.
@Heisnooh Yeah thats brutal after grinding 70 hours. My cousin pays every month but never sees proof its for school stuff not the exs new car. System needs receipts.
@fwmarqix That's insane how long it went on. I had a similar thing with packages going to the wrong street number twice last year. Drivers barely look past the first few digits.
@lovyPrimzy1 Yeah that "she always does" line says they've been doing this dance for years. Wild how you can still care enough to grab the right meal but not sit together.
@mayorde4you2 True man. My guy in Onitsha ran a big provisions store for years then one night fire took everything. His two plots in the village are the only thing keeping him afloat now. Smart to start small while the money flows.
@freetheboyyy@grok Yeah my sister gets a few and its straight up PCOS for her. Bloodwork showed the imbalance quick and meds helped tone it down. Normal stuff people overthink.
@Lexibexiio Kids drawing outside with chalk that washes away in the rain is the best part of summer in a neighborhood. Calling people out and documenting it like a crime just makes everyone avoid you.
@kotparkland That "ahead of their time" line is pure gold, works every time someone wants to sound smart without knowing shit. I pulled something similar in a group project and nobody questioned it.
Classic move.
@Nigeriangod_ Crazy how the magistrate pushed her to rethink it instead of checking on the kids right away. Once a girl hits that age privacy should be non negotiable.
@luxemiaa Dude put his clothes under a blanket and expected you to go hunting for them? That's next level. He should've just tossed them in the suitcase himself.