According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partner’s or friend’s distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
I pernah baca yang manusia memang kena kerja sebab kerja tu provide purpose dan tujuan dalam hidup.
Kalau terlalu lama tak kerja, manusia akan cari & buat kerja sendiri, just to fill the void.
And the irony is, having jobs and being busy, make us more appreciative toward mundane and small things.
Going to leave you with this tonight:
The best thing you can do for yourself is actively increase your surface area for luck to hit you. Go outside, travel more, go to new cates, museums, events, take a new route home, go for hikes, see cities, countrysides, take your notebook, speak to people, ask questions, start businesses - go on more side quests. You can literally just do things, and the more you do, the more serendipity and synchronicity will find you.
Pernah nonton vlog orang luar negeri (lupa negara mana) yang kerja di Korea. Di sana mostly orang-orang pake baju warna2 monochrome kayak hitam putih mentok abu. Sedangkan dia pake baju yang cetar2 kayak kuning, pink, dll gitu tapi tetep pede aja walau kadang diliatin orang.
Yang lagi kerja dan tinggal di Korea, bener ga kayak gitu? Kalo di Indonesia sih masih lumayan warna-warni yaaa walau di area concrete jungle pun.