Dear Mama, I’m Coming Home
Mama, it’s me. Your girl.
I didn’t make it home from school.
When the fire came, we ran, we tried
I held my sister’s hand. We cried.
The door was not opening that night
Papa, I called your name with all my might
But this time, you weren’t in sight
Just smoke, and heat, and dying light
Mama, I’m coming home.
This time I won’t be shouting your name from the gate.
But I’ll be coming home in a casket, Mama.
Mama, I’m sorry.
Mama, tell my classmates this:
Don’t stop laughing in the dorms at night.
Don’t let my bed stay empty with fright.
Finish the science project I started —
Put my name on it. Say I departed,
But not from you. Keep my jokes alive.
And when KCSE comes, let all of us arrive…
In your hearts. In your pens. In your drive.
Mama, tell my teachers this:
Thank you for calling my name each day.
Thank you for believing I had something to say.
I’m sorry I left before the lesson was done.
But the biggest lesson was love — and you won.
Keep teaching them fierce. Keep teaching them loud.
Tell them I was proud. So proud.
Mama, tell my friends this:
Brenda, keep my hair clips. Wear them when you’re sad.
Njeri, finish my novel — tell me how the story ends.
Faith, you still owe me a soda. I’ll collect in heaven, friend.
Don’t wear black forever. Dance at prom for me.
Live the life I was supposed to see.
Mama, I’m sorry for the fees you paid
For the dreams the fire betrayed
So Mama, fight for other girls
So that fire doesn’t kill them.
Mama, the negligence — tell them to stop the negligence.
Tell them doors should open.
Tell them girls should be safe when they sleep.
Don’t bury me and bury the truth.
Let my name unlock every roof
That traps a daughter when she should be free
Mama, that’s how you bring me home to me.
I love you. I tried.
I’m coming home, Mama.
But leave the gate open for them.
Your daughter.
Forever.
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Everyone I know who fought their family and married the person they were warned about regrets it today, every single one of them, including my own cousin.
If your family don’t like the person you want to marry, do not rush into marriage. Take some time and Do your due diligence and find out why.
Lastly, Marriage is not a union of two people like you were taught in school, it’s a union of two families.
That’s more reason you should make sure that the two families are on the same page.
This morning, I saw a reality that too many firstborns grow up living.
A little girl, no more than six, walking to school with her younger sister, maybe four. She held her hand tightly, not as a playmate, but like a guardian. Each time they approached the road, she gently pulled her inward, shielding her from passing vehicles. The younger one was crying, probably denied something from home, her tears loud and restless. Yet the older girl did not complain. She kept walking, whispering comfort, steadying her sister’s steps, carrying a responsibility far bigger than her age.
That is the quiet burden of firstborns.
From childhood, they are assigned roles they never applied for. Protector, caregiver, example, second parent, etc. While other children are allowed to be children, firstborns are taught to be careful, to be strong, to look out for others. Their mistakes are lessons, their sacrifices expected, their maturity forced into existence too early.
They learn responsibility before they learn freedom. They carry siblings on their backs, emotionally and sometimes physically. They are told to understand, to endure, to adjust, because they are the “eldest”. No one asks if they are tired. No one asks if they are ready.
The weight placed on firstborns is unreal, yet they carry it quietly, often with love, often with pain.
If there is any fairness in nature, then firstborns deserve to be rewarded with everything good life has to offer. Peace, softness, ease and love that chooses them first for once.
My therapist told me:
“When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that, one day, someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the care taker. The fixer. The one who shows up, even when no one shows up for them.”
And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong. They're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.
Do you know by 45, life has already answered you. Not with words, but with outcomes.
At 45, you are no longer becoming. You have largely become. Your finances, health, relationships, and reputation are no longer promises. They are evidence.
This is the age where self deception collapses. You can’t keep blaming your parents, your country, your spouse, or bad luck.
Because by now, you have made enough choices to own where you stand.
By 45, time is no longer theoretical.
You feel it in your knees, your back, your energy levels, and your recovery time.
You realize youth was not just age. It was resilience you did not respect.
At this stage, regret becomes loud.
Not the dramatic kind, but the quiet ones.
The calls you never returned.
The skills you postponed learning.
The risks you were too comfortable to take.
By 45, your children, or the absence of them, mirror your priorities.
Your marriage, or lack of peace in it, reflects how well you learned emotional discipline.
Your friendships are fewer, because tolerance for nonsense is gone.
This is also when money tells the most honest story.
Not income, but preparedness.
If work stops today, how long can you breathe without panic.
At 45, that answer matters more than titles.
By this age, people stop listening to your explanations.
They watch how you live.
You are either a reference point or a warning.
Your health is no longer forgiving.
Every ignored checkup.
Every year of stress without rest.
Every habit you told yourself you would fix later.
Later has arrived.
At 45, dreams that survived discipline look powerful. Dreams that survived excuses look childish.
You now understand that hope without structure is cruelty to yourself.
This is the age where legacy quietly replaces ambition.
You start thinking less about applause and more about impact.
Less about proving, more about leaving something solid behind.
By 45, life stops negotiating.
It simply enforces the consequences of earlier decades.
And the most painful realization is this. Most people did not fail because life was unfair. They failed because they delayed honesty with themselves.
At 45, peace becomes the real currency. And you either earned it through discipline, foresight, and humility. Or you spend the rest of your years trying to explain why you don’t have it.
Eldest daughter reminder: Not everything needs to be managed, fixed, or explained by you. Let silence be your boundary sometimes — not every role is yours to fill, and not every silence is yours to break.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to understand the psychology or behaviour behind why someone hurt you. In fact, that’s often a huge part of healing.
Some family members may not be able to contribute financially to weddings, graduations, funerals, or other gatherings—but they show up with their hands and their hearts. Don’t overlook the uncle who doesn’t give money but ensures the cow is properly slaughtered.
It’s something I’ve unlearnt. For the longest time, our gifts to my mum were things that helped her serve us blenders,cute dishes. Things framed as love,but rooted in labour. I’ve grown to realise that loving her properly means seeing her outside of motherhood and as a woman
my therapist told me learn to calm your own storm instead of venting to other people it sounds therapeutic to let it all out, but you're reinforcing your negative thoughts. it’s no one’s job but yours to pull you out of your own problems. journal, meditate, exercise and release.
The most valuable lesson life has taught me so far is to take absolutely nothing for granted- be thankful for an ounce of good health, a breath of good faith, and anyone to share love with.
some of y’all think you make good partners because you won’t cheat but you fail to realize you're inconsiderate, unappreciative, manipulative, insecure, lack empathy, have poor communication skills, and harbor emotional trauma from past relationships.