I recall a DM that I shared one time from a young man.
His father was having financial problems for a long time.
So he decided to be coming home sparingly.
When he asked his father why he seldom came home..
"My son, I can't come back home to eat, if I cannot give your mother money to cook the food. The insult I get from your mother will not let the food digest in my stomach. I would rather eat the food that you or your brother provided money for".
Every man has an ego.
Some men have unfortunately accepted their fate, and some would rather stay away, to avoid the humiliation.
A woman's money is not sweet to taste.
And they don't give free money to men.
Especially men that are supposed to be their providers, & sleeping with them.
If she shelters you, one day she will remind you that you're a "visitor".
If she feeds you, one day she will remind you that you are eating free meals.
The fact that you may observed this from your home when you were still under your parents, & that they're still together, doesn't mean your father was happy throughout.
He either did not have a choice, or he became too relaxed & used to the subtle insults & humiliation.
And your father will never advice you to be in his position.
Yes, he will praise your mother for her years of kindness towards him, but he'll tell you not to depend on a woman for such things.
And you shouldn't.
For you single young men,
Start preparing yourselves for the task ahead of you.
Tell yourselves that you can do it through Christ that strengthens you.
If you marry a woman that is also making money, be happy with your choice.
But only rely on her money, and not depend on it.
Learn to appreciate your wife whenever she does things for you, the house, or for the children.
Learn to pay her back, if not in full, but in part.
By doing so, you're telling her that you appreciate her support and kindness. And that you know it's your responsibility to provide for her.
Your wife is not making money for you.
She's making it for herself and your children.
There a many things that she would be doing with her money, that may not be visible to you.
But she's helping you.
Where you'd miss it, is when you start to act entitled to her money, & start demanding that she also plays your role because she's your wife.
If your wife tells you to start sharing the cooking, cleaning, nursing, nurturing etc with her, would you be happy doing it?
Roles can be flexed, but they're not interchangeable.
And this is the natural order.
God is nature.
End.
How a Biker Emmanuel Enya, While Traveling To Lagos, Saved a Pregnant Woman Who Went Into Labor On The Road. As People And Cars Passed By And Ignored Her, Emmanuel Stopped And Helped Her Deliver The Baby Right There:
This is the Ghana-Togo border at Leklebi Kame in the Volta Region
It’s just a stream that separates the two countries. This is beautiful. Lemme pack my bags. VR, see you soon!