webster

[webster @fayesterweb]

manager suddenly interested in trying to promote me after he started sniffing that I wanted to leave #ok

[webster @fayesterweb]

Everyday I thank god I’m born here I would seriously rather choke on my own spit daily than grow up surrounded by people who think like this

[Melissa Chen @MsMelChen]

Was talking with a friend about how public extramarital affairs are handled differently in Chinese versus Western societies, and how expectations placed on the wife diverge sharply once a man’s infidelity becomes public knowledge.

As of now, Jensen Huang’s wife Lori has not publicly responded. Obviously she's not obligated to explain or manage her husband’s behavior for the public, and she isn't responsible for protecting or restoring his image. The matter is quite simple and straightforward. The public feels bad for her and knows she is the victim here.

Although that said, given how important of a company Nvidia is, the world is kinda waiting with bated breath because her eventual reaction or continued silence carries the potential to ripple through market sentiment, institutional confidence, and the valuations that underwrite countless portfolios, thereby shaping, in no small measure, the net worth of investors the world over.

In Chinese society, however, the response often takes a very different form. Just last June, it was reported that Foxconn founder Terry Gou was having an affair with a female golf partner / friend.

The media tracked his movements closely, waiting for some statement or reaction. A couple of months later, his wife, Ms. Zeng shared a photo on Instagram of the couple looking happy together. They had flown to California for an event hosted by Apple CEO Tim Cook and posed with him; Gou wore a formal suit while his wife wore an elegant red dress, and both smiled for the cameras.

This is a familiar script among Chinese women facing such rumors: publicly posting affectionate couple photos as a way of signaling 支持先生 (support the husband / stand by one’s husband). Gou himself never issued a public comment or statement about the alleged affair, and the matter effectively ended there.

When a man’s affair is rumored, Chinese society tends to focus above all on 妻子是否继续站在他身边 (whether the wife continues to stand by his side) as the decisive outcome. They look for signs. Does the wife appear at events, does she pose for photos with her husband? The man himself faces little public accountability.

Chinese society has a distinctive way of processing these situations: if one spouse errs, the other is often expected to absorb the consequences and remain at their side. When a man does something wrong, women are frequently expected to 委屈求全 (endure humiliation and compromise to preserve the greater good / swallow one’s pride for the sake of the bigger picture).

The questions that circulate are whether the wife will forgive him and whether she will continue to support him if his career or reputation is damaged.

This is the biggest difference between Chinese and Western societies when high profile people deal with the fallout extramarital affairs. In Chinese society, women are expected to 顾全大局 (take the overall situation into account / consider the big picture).

If the husband makes a mistake, the wife is expected to maintain the family; if he damages the marriage, she is expected to help repair it; and if he publicly apologizes, she is often expected to come forward and forgive him so that the episode can be considered closed.

In Western society, by contrast, when an adult errs they are generally left to 自己看着办 (handle it yourself / deal with it on your own). Very few wives step out to “help the husband apologize” or publicly grant him another chance in the same way; adults are expected to own their own mistakes.

Look at how it went down for Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos. The notable exception many people point to is Bill and Hillary Clinton - she stood beside him despite his infidelity, a stance that feels more Eastern than Western in its emphasis on standing by one’s partner for the sake of the "larger picture"

[webster @fayesterweb]

I love OG lmao

[NEW YORK KNICKS @nyknicks]

sorry guys it was just a prank 🤣

[webster @fayesterweb]

@imlikerllyitchy Like I needed a burp or something…

[webster @fayesterweb]

I can’t go out with dudes who just moved here from SF anymore why’d this guy pat my back the entire time we were making out 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[webster @fayesterweb]

British people loveeeee Doc Hollidays

[webster @fayesterweb]

@danikkitapes I stand by both statements. What’s contradictory?

[webster @fayesterweb]

@danikkitapes This is much more of an indictment of the kind of people you surround yourself with than anything else lol

[webster @fayesterweb]

@danikkitapes The most vehemently anti-subway people I know in the city are all native New Yorkers and many hardly leave their neighborhoods. This is a boogeyman transplant you created who’s just actually more like native New Yorkers

[webster @fayesterweb]

@metr0politics Lmao you are so full of shit

[webster @fayesterweb]

@adastroworld @poiThePoi @seconds_0 Thank you Muse AI

[webster @fayesterweb]

@adastroworld @poiThePoi @seconds_0 Are you allergic to looking up data?

[webster @fayesterweb]

@adastroworld @poiThePoi @seconds_0 You literally can look this up yourself. Look up NYC median income and compare it to any suburb nearby. Think Rye, Scarsdale, Plainview, Huntington, etc

[webster @fayesterweb]

maybe it would be less of a phase to new residents if the average nyc apartment on the market wasn’t $4k as opposed to the average rent paid being $1.4k . you literally can’t afford to live in nyc if you didn’t move in at least a decade ago or show up rich

[TrainingArc @TrainingArc1917]

Because y’all suck. I have no respect for people who view this city as just a phase they’re passing through.

[webster @fayesterweb]

@boywaif either income restricted or very old lease. or roommates

[webster @fayesterweb]

?

[Amelia Metters 家喜 @amelia_metters]

I moved to sf to give up on being cool

It was a full time job in NY. Always pretending like you read a lot of philosophy and that you enjoy niche film foreign movies. And that you enjoy drinking 8 times a week. Normalizing drugs that you never thought were cute… and that you enjoy Afro house music (never actually pretended that one)

[webster @fayesterweb]

@KristiBurrus @MidwestListings Yes he’s good at that. He was not good at running himself

[webster @fayesterweb]

@KristiBurrus @MidwestListings In his House race. He lost to Cruz for the Senate and he tried an idiotic takedown of Talarico this year. Glad he wasn’t successful!

[webster @fayesterweb]

@fpereyra @shiibchichi is this our sign

[shiny bug vega @vampl0r]

when i meet someone also “from austin” and we immediately go “omg okay nvm im from *specific suburb*” it’s beautiful