Many of us have our critics and also our supporters, yet the most growth and development can come from mentors and coaches because they see what we are capable of and offer honest fuel for growth. Seek guidance. Be coachable.
Work hard on the things that come easy.
This is the finish line of the 100m Olympics yesterday. What do you notice? The margins of victory were super close. That’s true – only 0.12 seconds separated the gold winner (9.79s) from the athlete that finished dead last (9.91s).
But what else do you notice? The finalists were from Italy, the USA, South Africa, Botswana, and Jamaica, yet they all shared one thing in common: Blackness. It is impossible to look at this and deny the role that genes play in success. Are these athletes incredibly motivated and hardworking? Yes! But so are many Whites, Asians, South Americans, and the rest that didn’t make it to this level. In addition to nurture (training, exposure, determination, etc.), they have the genes that confer speed as a natural advantage.
Don’t let the motivational speakers fool you. To make it to the very top, to beat out other rivals for the crown, you need both nature and nurture. You need an environment that will enable you to fully maximize your potential. Potential can be maximized, not increased. You only get to play the hands you are dealt. Training can help you play it well, but your genes determine the cards in your hands.
How will you know if you are built for an endeavor?
Ask yourself the following:
1. What feels like fun to me, but work to others?
2. What makes me lose track of time?
3. Where do I get greater returns than the average person?
4. What comes naturally to me?
As James Clear puts it, “Our genes do not eliminate the need for hard work. They clarify it. They tell us what to work hard on. Once we realize our strengths, we know where to spend our time and energy. We know which types of opportunities to look for and which types of challenges to avoid. The better we understand our nature, the better our strategy can be.”
You do not need to be a pioneer to be genuine. Lean on being authentic to self, embrace what makes you different than others, put the effort in to be the best you that you can be.
What nobody ever tells you once you before you turn 40 is that your chances of making money through sheer effort and grit diminishes remarkably. You depend more on the effort and grit you were once known for and the relationships you had built before that time.
Reflection is a valuable tool. Just be mindful when reflecting on the past, wins, losses, lessons and all things, don’t get stuck there. Use the glance back to pave the road ahead.
There is no perfect time to address difficult things. Lean in, express your thoughts and emotions and listen with empathy to work towards growth for all involved.