People who love and care deeply tend to imagine every possible outcome when they notice red flags. They end up breaking their own hearts with scenarios they create in their heads, until they finally find the strength to leave.
And when they do, they leave like you never existed.
You might think they never cared, but the truth is, they saw the red flags, imagined the worst, and emotionally checked out long before they actually left.
I really hope women understand that you can be a wonderful person with a few embarrassing stories attached to your name. Please don’t spend your entire adulthood trying to prove you were never young, confused, impulsive or human.
It is unfair the woman is the one being dragged when the man is the one that messed up. We need to encourage family values and bring back healthy faithful relationship. The behaviour we are encouraging is damaging us and that is why we have many people living with trauma. You might think it is just sex, but what about how it affects your partner and the other women whom you led to believe they are in a relationship with you.
Please don't lead people on by denying your relationship, just because of sex. You are playing with their hearts.
Pain has a face. The people you are hurting are not statistics or numbers. They are individuals with hearts who also have their own expectations from relationship. Interestingly, the consequences are not the same for men and women. Please protect your partner by doing right by them. If you have erred in the past, you can choose to do better going forward.
Someone once told me that fear of heights is not really the fear of falling but the fear that the irrational urge to throw yourself over the edge will become irresistible. True in my experience