As a bisexual, this isn’t even homophobia. He’s right. We shouldn’t be making being gay or bi our whole personalities.
You’ll put the “Homophobia” label on everything you dislike, no matter how right it may be. It’s almost like you’re fleeing from actual criticism.
Funny because to me work feels just like school and college: a place I have to be for no other reason than I HAVE to be there, being forced to mingle with a gaggle of morons I wouldn't associate with otherwise and ultimately realising that life is kind of complete bullshit lmao.
We shouldn't hide the college days behind rose-tinted glasses. I went to college. It sucked. It was just like school except way more disorganised. You couldn't talk to anyone outside of lectures because nobody really gave a shit. Not even the staff. Idk what kind of colleges you people were going to where the "babes were throwing themselves" at you and all this cooky crazy whacky shit was going on all the time; I'm half expecting you're just making shit up.
Life is not a checklist. Everyone will try to convince you it is through media, ego-stroking twitter and reddit posts, advertising, political alarmism. No matter what they say, it is NOT a checklist. You don't have to experience X, Y or Z before ages A, B and C. It's bullshit; it's an absurd outdated display of status in a world where such things mean next to nothing anymore. The only thing that really matters now is breaking off from the rat race. Not pursuing wealth or power or status, because those things all lead to the same dead end.
What you want is autonomy.
You're allowed to be f*cking angry. Not 'frustrated.' Not 'a little upset.' Angry. The kind of angry that scares you. The kind that makes you want to break things.
That anger isn't a problem. That anger is thirty years of swallowed rage finally finding a voice.
You weren't allowed to be mad at the people who hurt you. So you turned it inward. Into shame.
Into depression. Into a body that punishes itself for existing. It's time to aim it at the right target.
After a certain age, your parents slowly become your children. They ask simple questions, repeat stories, and depend on your patience the way you once depended on theirs. Very few understand this role reversal. What looks like innocence or inconvenience is really time coming full circle. Don't correct them harshly. Don't rush them. Care for them the way they once protected you. This is not a burden. It is repayment.