Nobody tells you how hard it is to rewire your brain so you can allow amazing things to happen to you after so much trauma or hurt. Blessings exist, good people exist, a softer life exists. Let it happen.
Girl to girl: be that girl again.
Get disciplined again. Take care of yourself again. Eat better & move your body again. Oil your edges & drink your water again. Start praying & reading your Bible again. Get your money up and sleep 8 hours again. Find your spark and put yourself first.
You can spend 2 years with the same person, adjust your your routine to fit theirs, get to a point where their mood affects your mood and they will wake up one day and say they don’t love you anymore and walk away from your life and There is nothing you can do about it
If I’m being completely honest, half the things I went through were because of me, my lack of discipline, ignoring my gut feelings, my inability to set boundaries, say NO when necessary, and my poor decision-making.
as a hyper independent girly (to a fault), i don't like asking for shit it makes me uncomfortable. that's why i like men who just DO. don't ask, just figure out what i need/want and DO IT.
Date romantic men who like to plan dates and buy flowers instead of dating nonchalant men and trying to force them into something they think is pointless and unnecessary.
When Lauryn Hill said “it could all be so simple”she wasn't lying. Reciprocity between two people who want something to work is so simple. It's as easy as breathing.