You’re on a journey on this kind of lonely road with your car and your car suddenly develops a fault, You can’t call for help and your lines can’t be reached due to network issues, what do you do?
Except the car will stop and the engine won’t come up again, please reduce your speed and accelerate softly till you get to a nearby town, if it is an overheating issue, keep driving, put the gear in the neutral position and switch off the engine and let the car keep moving, switch it back on when you have to ascend a hilly road and the car can’t move freely on its own again.
If the battery signal comes up while driving, chances are that your alternator has failed, or the alternator belt is damaged, apply the same method and switch off your AC, radio system or anything that may drain the battery while driving till you get to a safe place.
If it is a flat tyre, maintain a low speed till you get to a safe place to change and use your spare, keep moving. Yes!!! Damage that tyre till you get to a safe place, just keep moving and make sure you have a spare tyre always and it is in a good condition.
If the engine suddenly goes off on top speed, chances are that a fuse is damaged and this is why I will make a thread on how to identify different fuses and how to have them fixed temporarily in case of Emergencies.
If your car jerks or experiences a lazy movement while driving, it’s likely to be a fuel related issue, fuel pump most likely, switch off the engine intermittently and put the gear in Neutral position, keep moving… if the fuel pump rests for about 5mins, it’ll pick up back when you ignite the engine, this will/may at least take you to a safe place or where you can have access to network to make calls.
If you hear strange sounds like knocking sounds or the oil signal starts to blink, relax and reduce your speed, keep moving. Manage it till you get to a safe place or can have access to network.
If your gear/transmission system isn’t selecting well, apply the same method, reduce your speed but keep moving, slow movement is better than no movement, your life and safety matters a lot.
Please note that there are some Mechanical issues that nothing can solve on the road except patience and just to pray to God for safety and help, for example, you run into a pothole unknowingly and the oil pan hits the road and your engine or gear oil leaks away, or your ball joint or tie rod head pulls out, I’ll suggest you leave the car there, roll up your windows and lock up the car and start trekking till you get network or help, staying with the car may make you vulnerable to attacks or attract unexpected company, just keep walking away from the car for safety.
Most importantly, please stay safe and be conscious of your environment.
Be friendly with your Mechanic too or any Mechanic you see on the road.
Don’t manage faults in cars and risk traveling with it.
Yes, your woman may help you financially when you are building. But that’s not her primary role. Oga, get up and do the damn work. The respect and submission you are demanding for will come automatically when you have proven yourself.
All these talk of 50/50 is giving me headache. Once again, you do not go into marriage/relationships with rigid expectations from the opposite gender. Every relationship has its own dynamic that will not work when taken into another. Granted, there are general rules such as respect, honor, etc, but 50/50 is not one of them.
Imagine Otedola running around demanding 50/50 from his wife. Is he mad? Women will push back when men demand for 50/50 same way men will push back when women demand that men should cook.
As a man, once you have built enough capacity to run two or three separate and complete homes, come back to this argument, and you will see how silly the conversation is. I’m not in support of polygamy, I’m just saying your experiences shape the way you see things.
Remember that lady that left her relationship because the boyfriend was not rich enough to fund their trip to Zanzibar while she could? Here is the kicker, if the dude could afford to run the trip 10x over, watch as that lady would have funded the trip for both of them by herself.
Burden of performance is on men. Automatically, that makes it unfair for men to demand 50/50 financial expenses from women. Only weak, feminized, simping men demand 50/50. Stop stressing the girlies.
Football tactics and approaches evolve so quickly, you won’t notice if you don’t look closely.
No team is pressing disjointedly like this anymore, running around like headless chickens. This Barcelona team were too evolved for their time and teams didn’t know exactly how to tackle them for a long time.
I was eight years old then. My mother had just left for market and she warned me not to leave the house.But guess who was already outside and had scored 6goals yes me.I too like ball and na wetin kill me that day.While playing,one of my guys stopped me and pointed at the bus stop
So, from this tweet I have seen several hot takes and a lot of twisting of intentions.
I really don't think the main lesson for this tweet is to tell women to wake up 4.50Am to cook; na una LAGOS people get that wahala.
What I see here is a woman identifying a possible problem in her marriage and making adjustments to solve it, albeit inconvenient.
That is one of the things marriage is about, not everything will be smooth, some uncomfortable adjustments may be needed by both parties, which folks should be willing to make.
It could be anything; but in her own case, it was cooking for her husband.
This isn't true. The problem is that feminism has been so muddled up that we've lost sight of what it truly is and represents.
What's happened to feminism is similar to what's happening to Islam.
When some women started to hide under feminism to preach man hate, feminists saw them as a necessary militant wing to propagate their agenda & ideologies. So, even when they didn't agree with them, they kept quiet in the face of it.
It's the same thing with extremist Muslims and moderate Muslims.
Feminism I'm its real sense is beautiful & very necessary because no matter what anyone says, women still experience many forms of discrimination & disadvantages in many spheres of life just for being women.
Being a Christian means being Christ-like. Everything about Jesus Christ teaches us that he advocated for equal rights between a man & a woman and abhors the subjugation of anyone on any basis
Marriage is not a one-size-fits-all experience. Each marriage is both unique and special. Do not let anyone else's experience in their own marriage define your own expectations and experience. Embrace your own journey and create a unique love story that works for you and your spouse.
Bants aside, If you need to wake up early to make food for your husband please do it.
You people need to understand that love is sacrifice and most often, sacrifices ain’t convenient.
What I advice is that you make sacrifices for them because you love them and not out of fear that you might lose them to someone. Although sometimes a threat resets your head but it shouldn’t be the motivating factor to stretching yourselves for them . You do it because you love them and love is sacrifice.
A terminally ill person with a few weeks left to live busy laughing at me on Twitter for having refugee status is one of those ironies of life one struggles to explain.
I hope his friends parroting "Everybody will die" listen to their own words and catch the import of that statement. Because yes, everybody WILL die, and everybody will be equal in death.
But you know what? Not everybody's memories will be equal after death - and that's the real test of a person's life. If you like, continue making excuses for terrible behaviour by chanting, "Everybody will die."
When you die, it is the impact you made on the living that will pass judgment on you. Your death does not absolve you of your actions while living.
Everybody WILL die, so you better live as if you might die tomorrow. Live a life that will not require people to debate about whether to mourn you when you die. Live a life that will be remembered for good by the living. Live a life that will elicit testimonies from people when you die, not a life that will leave your friends and family explaining and explaining.
Everybody will die, so LIVE LIKE YOU KNOW YOU WILL DIE.
A man’s view of the world changes when you have a family that truly loves you. You can only experience the other side when your wife and kids chose you above material things all day long.
If I pack my things and move to a one room house, best believe, those humans will pack their things and follow me.
Society can only thrive with a strong family unit. I wish every man can experience this. It changes you in ways that you can’t begin to understand.
Merry Christmas.
I hope I don’t get dragged for this too.
First of all, different men ultimately want different things from a woman, so don’t ever feel the need to be a one-size-fits-all for men. You will just be stressing yourself.
Secondly, a woman who depends completely on her husband financially, is not a liability insofar as she is providing sufficient value elsewhere.
Finances are not the only substance marriage is made of and I think too much of a deal is made of it than should be.
There are other areas where a woman provides value to her man that trump financial contributions. Some of them are: spiritual value, homeliness, good parenting, good sex, emotional and mental support, and even career support.
If she is providing sufficient value in these areas, financial support should be negligible, especially if she’s not of the means.
Thirdly, the concept of “independent woman” is a facade to me, coz nobody in a union should be independent- man or woman. Coupling is all about co-dependence and interdependence.
I traditionally believe that a man should provide for protect his woman primarily, regardless of her means. But I also acknowledge that there are situations where the woman may be of better means and the man is unfortunate financially.
In circumstances like this, the parties must take extra care to make sure that they don’t allow pride to creep in, causing them to sabotage their relationship.
I want to wrap this up, so I’ll conclude by saying, the reason some of these issues arise is because people don’t learn to love each other perfectly.
If couples learn to love each other right, then the things that sprout animosity amongst couples would not exist.
Love is patient, kind, humble, not jealous, not resentful, doesn’t keep records of wrongdoing, it corrects in love, respectful, supportive, etc.
Whether a woman is completely financially dependent on her man or she is financially sufficient by herself, should not define the set up in the union.
Just love, support and honor each other the right way and none of these worries would rear their heads.