Eldest daughter reminder: Ignoring people and focusing on yourself doesn't make you a bad person. Don't feel guilty for not immediately attending to everyoneโs needs. Move at your own pace or choose not to do things at all; they can manage on their own.
Start now. Start where you are. Start with fear. Start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with hands shaking. Start with voice trembling but start. Start and donโt stop. Start where you are, with what you have.
Just... start.