been collecting meaningful questions in my notes app for years. one good question can turn a 5 minute chat into an hour of real connection. we underestimate how much people want to be asked about themselves
centuries of women before me have yearned to taste the freedom i get to experience nowadays by being able to say no to marriage/children and choose my own path with full agency, and i will never take that for granted. they live through me
@SWENGDAD or likewise “Cmon, have self respect and dont be turned on by guys that offer you the bare minimum” but at the same time its “even if your husband is barely doing the bare minimum around the house, how dare you be turned off by that? Hes so unlucky to have you as a wife”
@SWENGDAD that and the “if she stays at home and doesnt wanna sleep with guys, thats wifey material, otherwise shes a disgusting whore” at the same time as “well if you dont wanna sleep with your husband despite not being in the mood, don’t expect him to stay loyal”
Abigail Shrier: "The number one symptom of depression is rumination, pathologically obsessing over your pain. Getting out of your house and accomplishing anything is good for you, sitting around, talking and thinking about your problems is a bad habit."
I’m not a botherer but I do like clarity to know where we stand, so once you make it clear you not on that, you will never have to worry abt me ever again in life.
@Jamesoflife The "generalization" isn't even for Men per say but "Men" as a social group. Just like when they say humans are destroying the ocean. It's not everyone
It’s been a discussion on TikTok about how when women sign up to be in relationships with men they lose all their bodily autonomy. One lady said she can’t walk around her house without her husband constantly groping her or sleep in peace without him trying to have sex most nights
i don’t know anything but my experience of aging so far has been a series of sudden& humiliating realizations that every cliche made meaningless by constant exposure (“be yourself” etc) contains a completely overwhelming degree of truth that u can’t understand until you just do
@lachancenaomi27 Although I dont agree with his take, God forbid a guy is proud of his academic accomplishments! Yeah its not a PhD but a BA is still a lot of work & there should be no shame in showing it off!
i’ve noticed my happiness is directly correlated to a few simple ratios:
- time spent outside vs inside
- time spent active vs sedentary
- time spent creating vs consuming
- time spent focused vs distracted
y’all are so obsessed with finding a man .. girl go study, find a better job, find a skin care regimin, tweak your resume, increase your credit, get that degree, pay off your car, build your savings, travel, live a little, but keep your priorities straight ! life is not all about a man . take care of you !