chai, i wrote a paper on this in business school o. they needed a different strategy to break into the north cos it was their hardest market to crack.
northern women apparently didn't embrace it when it first came cos it was too easy 💀. they couldn't believe that a meal can be ready in minutes.
also, most of the homes were polygamous and cooking was a time for the wives to bond and cook together, which was something they mostly enjoyed. instant noodles also defeated that purpose, so they initially rejected it.
this is all based on my research btw not my personal opinion. indomie had to work twice as hard to capture that market and localisation was one of their biggest tools.
I don’t want my daughter to be like me. I want her to speak up sooner. Walk away faster. Trust herself deeper. Apologize less. Take up more space. Ask bigger questions. Dream louder. And if that means she becomes everything I wasnt… GOOD!
One Christmas, my mum insisted I visit my uncle and his family. We weren't close, and I never liked going there because they always seemed to think everyone else was a bad person.
When I got there, they welcomed me. My aunt said she'd get me something to eat and headed to the kitchen. My uncle followed her.
While they were both in the kitchen, their toddler tried to run after them, slipped, fell hard, and started crying.
I rushed over and picked him up.
My aunt came out, took him from my arms, and this little boy looked her dead in the eyes, pointed straight at me, and said,
"Push... push."
The way they both looked at me...
I was too shocked to even defend myself.
Expecting people whose parents called them “ode” “oloshi” “oponu” for mistakenly spilling water to automatically know how to communicate without therapy because they’re now adults is crazy.
Wallahi if you gathered the entire Dantata family in one place, Dangote included, and emptied every account they own, they still would not produce ₦61 trillion, over 40 billion dollars, in CASH. Even Elon Musk, the richest man on the planet, does not have that kind of money lying idle. To raise the $44 billion he paid for Twitter, he had to sell over $20 billion of his Tesla shares, take a $13 billion loan from a consortium of banks, and BEG co-investors for another $7 billion. That is what it takes for the world’s wealthiest man to gather a sum smaller than what you people claim one man in Kano kept in cash. Our problem with numbers is beginning to border on mental illness.
In 2011, researchers studying sperm whales near the Azores noticed something swimming among the giants that did not belong there.
It was a bottlenose dolphin.
The dolphin had a severe S shaped spinal deformity, giving its body an unusual curved appearance. Scientists believed the condition may have made swimming difficult and could have left it struggling to keep pace with other dolphins.
But somehow, it had found different company.
For eight days, researchers repeatedly watched the dolphin travelling alongside a group of sperm whales. It rubbed against their enormous bodies, nuzzled them and stayed close as the whales moved through the Atlantic.
And the sperm whales did not chase it away.
At times, they appeared to return the contact and willingly allowed the much smaller dolphin to remain among them.
Researcher Alexander Wilson later said, “It really looked like they had accepted the dolphin for whatever reason. They were being very sociable.”
Scientists could not say exactly why the unusual relationship formed. One possibility was that the slower moving sperm whales were easier for the dolphin to follow. The whales, meanwhile, may simply have tolerated and eventually accepted their unusual companion.
Whatever the reason, researchers witnessed something extraordinarily rare.
A dolphin that seemed different from its own kind had found itself swimming among giants.
And somehow, the giants made room for it.
I know a number of people who didn’t marry their “spec” but are in the healthiest marriages I know. Their spec was typically whatever was culturally deemed to be at the apex of the attractiveness pyramid when they were growing up. For a lot of guys in my generation, it was the music video “vixens” from the late 90s/early 2000s Hip & R&B music videos with ‘coke bottle figures’ and or light skinned eurocentric features. When it’s time to find a partner for the very serious endeavor of sharing a life with, that “spec” is simply inadequate as a measure of compatibility and that’s understandable. The foolishness though is communicating it as though their partner somehow didn’t measure up to their “spec” instead of simply admitting that the idea of their spec was stupid all along and a young boy’s lack of wisdom of what makes a good life partner.
Communicating publicly or even privately to your partner that they weren’t your spec to begin with may seem harmless, after-all you’re just being honest. But subconsciously, it’s an ego trip for you who “settled” and for your the partner, it’s a chip they will always carry on their shoulder that to you, they aren’t quite enough. They’re missing something you had always longed for, so much so that you still consider it to be your “spec”. It’s an unnecessary mind fuck and a cruel thing to say about somebody who is sharing a life with you. No matter how flowery you are with the compliments that come after. You’ve already knocked them down several pegs.
If the point is to say your spec changed then talk about the stupidity of having a spec to begin with. Because I’ve never heard anyone in these situations talk about character attributes being their spec, it’s always superficial stuff. Or speak about how meeting your partner opened your eyes to what true beauty is. Speak in ways that elevate and affirm your partner.
It wasn’t hearsay, we saw the video. He was licking the young girl’s fingers and forcing his body on her.
He was convicted and sentenced, not just suspected. The judge saw him as someone to be sent to prison and off he went.
This is who they are giving chieftaincy title. Shocking
I cannot get over how funny this thing is.
As a kid, I watched this doc on elephant seals. The males fight by brutally smacking one another into a bloody pulp, with the winner acquiring the loser's harem.
Our friend Neil here is likely one of the following:
1. Very confused, may require intervention from @LASIKdotcom
2. Doing the seal equivalent of training at the gym
3. Not a fan of modern civil architecture
The quoted story is interesting: a first-class chartered accountant builds a real little bead business on the side while job hunting.
Her father ends it, says it isn't his vision for her, and tells her to focus. She does, and her career takes off.
The business wasn't the problem. It was good. It just wasn't the vision. The dad wasn't right because beads are beneath an accountant. He was right because you can't run hard in two directions at once.
What I'd have added is a conversation.
If deep down she wanted that path, it was worth hearing, and maybe the vision was evolving. Then back it fully. What you can't do is live half in the job and half in the business and expect either to work.
It could just as easily have gone the other way for me: the business as the vision, the job as the distraction.
The point was never which one. It's having a vision at all, then spotting distractions for what they are and deciding on purpose. Do them if you must, but never let them derail the big picture.
We lived this at Seamfix.
Broke in the early years, we took every website and custom software project that came along. It paid, but it turned us into coders for hire for years.
Our real growth only came when we stripped it back to our core: Identity.
I once told my co-founder to look at the sun. Immensely powerful, yet it doesn't burn us, because it's dispersed.
Put a mirror to it, focus those rays on one spot, and it burns straight through. That was our turning point.
Have a vision. Then focus the light.
My dentist has been ending every appointment by saying "remember, the teeth are watching" in a completely serious tone. First time I thought I misheard. But no. He's done it four visits in a row now. His hygienist doesn't react, like it's totally normal. I asked my friend who goes to the same dentist and he said "oh yeah, Dr. Patterson says that to everyone." No explanation. Just a blanket statement that teeth have surveillance capabilities. I switched dentists and at my first appointment with the new one, I mentioned this. She went quiet and said "Dr. Patterson trained me, actually. He's not wrong." Then she just continued the cleaning. I have so many questions. Nobody will elaborate. I'm afraid of my teeth now.