The narcissist picked you because you were extremely attractive to them. You had something they desperately wanted. You had light. And you were safe. That’s what people don’t understand. Narcissists do not attach themselves to people they see as weak, empty, or worthless. They gravitate toward people who are kind, patient, empathetic, loving, ambitious, loyal, forgiving, emotionally intelligent, and full of life.
I'm not married but my mom once told me that you can marry the right person and still feel stuck. You can have a stable, faithful partner and still feel unfulfilled if you built your whole identity around being someone’s wife instead of being your own person first.
Marriage benefits from a strong individual, it doesn’t create one. If you don’t know who you are, what you want, and how to stand on your own, marriage can quietly turn into a place where you shrink instead of grow. So don’t chase marriage like it’s the goal. Chase a life that already feels full so if you choose to marry, it adds to you, not becomes you.
high maintenance things i do to stay low maintenance
• wax my entire body every month (the hairs get finer and sparse with every waxing sesh too), so i don’t have to shave everyday
• buy solid gold jewellery so i can wear beautiful pieces forever without taking them off/worrying about tarnishing
• buy high quality linen, cotton and 100% silk clothing items so they can be worn longer
• take care of my skin with good products, so i don’t have to wear heavy makeup
• invest in a high quality foundation so i don’t have to worry about breaking out
• take care of my nails so they naturally grow stronger and longer so i dont have to get fake nails every other week
• moisturize my hair ends every day with a good leave-in conditioner so i don’t have to trim split ends every other month
• take care of my hormonal health/diet so i can maintain good health/radiance naturally instead of suddenly realizing that i have let myself go, which takes a lot more effort to bounce back from
• red light a few times a week + a good sunscreen every day to keep my skin healthy and protected
• face yoga and scalp massages every day to keep my fascia hydrated even as i grow older
• 100% silk pillowcases to keep my skin and hair soft
HOW TO READ ANYONE:
1. Status - revealed by their shoes.
2. Discipline - revealed by their nails.
3. Background - revealed by how they sit.
4. Intentions - revealed by their eyes.
5. Personality - revealed by how they laugh.
6. Confidence - revealed by how they walk.
7. Loyalty - revealed by where they look.
8. Intelligence - revealed by how they listen.
9. Maturity - revealed by how they argue.
10. Respect - revealed by how they treat people who can't help them.
Maturing is realizing that when you're in a relationship with someone who genuinely wants to grow with you, they will always bring up problems that don't sit right with them to your attention. It isn't a personal attack. It's a healthy sign that they value the relationship and want to make it work. All they are doing is bringing it to your attention to avoid the same mistake, so the relationship doesn't go down the drain.
Plan your pregnancy. This is not the 1980s. Eat good food, feel the love, choose a good mother or father for your children, don’t do stupid things, and don’t get pregnant by mistake. Your choice though.
My therapist told me:
People's negative traits are usually the opposite of their love languages.
Not asking for help.....Acts of Service
Isolating…..Quality Time
Avoidance……..Physical Touch
Impulsive Shopping......Gift Giving
Shutting down .….Words of Affirmation
Weak father = Slutty daughter
Dominating mother = Mama’s boy
Narcissistic mother = Insecure son
Absent father = Self-hating children
Poor marriages = Unhappy Homes
Unhappy home = Unhappy society
Broken homes breed broken men,
and broken men burn the world.
Strong father = Confident daughter
Feminine mother = Masculine son
Loving parents = Secure children
Healthy marriage = peaceful home
Peaceful home = Strong society
My therapist told me, “When a woman grows up feeling unseen, she learns to love by overgiving. She pours into everyone else, hoping that one day someone will finally pour back into her. She becomes the caretaker, the fixer, the one who shows up even when no one shows up for her. And the hardest part? Deep down, she’s not trying to be strong. She’s just waiting for someone to do for her what she’s spent her whole life doing for everyone else.”
if you have planets in your 8th house in astrology, consider yourself to be pretty cool. the minute someone starts dating you, or being friends with you, they typically gain more power, money, or unexpected success. 8⃣😎
this is because the 8th house can represent shared resources, shared power, transformation and drastic changes. this is why every person who becomes friends with you or gets into a relationship with you, typically experiences positive changes in their lives. 🍀✨
this is why if you have planets in your 8th house, you need to be mindful of who you give your energy and access to. people will benefit from being around your energy. 🖤✨
make sure people don't take advantage of it and reciprocate it back. it's good to help others, but do not let people constantly take things from you without giving you something back in return. 💕✨