I don’t want to "download the app" to pay for parking. I don’t want to "create an account" to see a menu. I don’t want to "provide feedback" on a 30-second interaction. I just want to exist in the physical world without a digital leash.
someone once told me “emotional intelligence is the discipline of sitting with a feeling long enough to understand it before you hand it to someone else” and that honestly changed how i move.
According to attachment theory, genuine love is reflected in how someone responds to your pain, not just your presence. When someone truly values your wellbeing, their deepest fear isn't losing access to you - it's causing you harm. But when someone only loves what you provide for them they fear losing their supply, not hurting your heart. This subtle difference reveals everything about whether you're loved for who you are or what you give. Notice which one keeps them awake at night.
People living abroad often feel very lonely, and they're at risk of mental health issues. Don't always think of only what you can get from them. Try to confirm that they're truly fine. Check up on them genuinely.
My cousin has been in Canada for six years.
Every month, money lands in my aunt's account.
School fees, house rent, his younger ones' upkeep.
Everybody calls him the family's blessing.
He called last Christmas.
Laughing and asking about everyone.
He sounded fine.
I asked: "How are you doing over there?"
He said: "I'm managing. Canada is good o."
He visited two years ago. We killed a goat.
The whole family came out.
He was smiling in every photo.
Nobody noticed he had lost weight.
I noticed. But I didn't say anything.
I thought maybe it was the cold.
Last month, his friend called my aunt.
Said my cousin had not been eating well.
That some months he sends everything and keeps nothing.
That he cries sometimes. Alone at night.
That he had been doing this for years.
My aunt was quiet for a long time.
Then she said:
"But he never said anything."
...
Well, he never said anything.
Because nobody ever asked beyond "how is Canada?"
Abortion is valid and okay even if the pregnancy didn’t come from rape or involve a minor.
“If the mother simply doesn’t want the baby,” that’s valid.
“If she’s not financially, mentally, or physically able to raise a child,” that��s valid.
“If the father leaves and she can’t or doesn’t want to raise the baby alone,” that’s valid.
“If she’s struggling with addiction that could affect the child,” that’s valid.
“If the fetus has serious health issues and abortion is needed,” that’s valid.
People need to understand that a woman doesn’t have to be harmed or violated to have control over her own body. If you’re thinking about children, you should also think about the mother. Save the tree, not just the apple.
Michael Jackson set the bar so high that no one will ever touch it again when he delivered one of the most legendary live performances in MTV history at the 1995 MTV Video Music Awards, leaving a moment that defined what a true stage performance looks like.
Normalize telling boys the stories of what women in the family went through. Boys seem to hear "grandma makes the best turkey" while daughters hear "grandma was married at 14."
Tell the boys the cost of their favorite meals, too.
This might be ridiculous but I want Twitter to do its thing!
My friend just opened his shop at 58 st. Finbarr’s college road akoka, Lagos.
I can vouch for him! Honest dude with integrity. He’s my guy!
If you see this, please RT
If you’re around Unilag, Yaba, please patronize him! 🙏🏾