I hope you never make yourself less loving just because people in the past showed you that being yourself was “too much." If anything, let it sharpen your boundaries. Love like yours is not a leak to be fixed. It's a river. Your tribe will not flinch at your depth. They'll swim.
You will never look back and say "I admire how I cared for everyone except myself."
But you will look back and say "I admire how I learned to care for myself so I could care for others without neglecting myself."