GetMemorial

Free online memorials for the people you love. Gather photos, stories and tributes in one place, so family and friends anywhere can remember together.

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A eulogy lands when people can see one scene. Here's a simple shape: who you are, one moment, one goodbye.

If you had one scene to tell about them, which would it be?

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A drawer. A bedside book. The shoes by the door. Before anything is moved, keep a record of where it lived.

Which drawer or shelf of theirs would you photograph first?

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How to sort a loved one's things in passes, without regretting it later: https://t.co/JBfXIKHck8

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Before anything of theirs gets washed, put one piece of their clothing in a sealed bag.

The smell fades, and faster than you expect. People often say it's the thing they wish someone had told them.

The rest of the wardrobe can wait for months. What did you keep?

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'May' written on the back of a photo won't mean much in fifty years. Here's what to write instead.

Can anyone in your family still name every face in the old photos?

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Two kind sentences are enough for a colleague. And there's one question most people ask that you should skip.

At work, what helped most when you came back after a death?

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Not sure what to text a friend whose mum died? Two simple lines, and one that most people forget.

What's the kindest message anyone sent you after a loss?

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Most life stories say 'kind and hardworking'. Nobody remembers that. They remember a scene.

What did they always eat for breakfast, and how did they eat it?

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Forty years of Mum trying to teach Dad to dance. Then came the first wedding without him.

Was there a song that belonged to the two of them?

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Grandad never took the lift. Years later, my son found a photo of his shoes and didn't get the joke.

What's a habit of theirs you've passed on to the kids without explaining it?

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I kept calling my sister's phone every night at eleven. Then a man answered.

A letter from Noor, 47, to her sister, seven months after she died.

Do you still have their number saved?

#grief #lossofasibling

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Grandma's Sunday dinners made it look easy. Without her, we kept saying 'next week'.

Which family tradition have you had to rebuild in a new shape?

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Mum labelled the flour jar 'NOT COFFEE' after one very strange morning drink. After she died, I went to wash it.

Whose handwriting is still somewhere in your home?

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Dad tested the water pressure in every flat we viewed. Even the ones we couldn't afford.

When good news comes now, whose voice do you still wish you could hear first?

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Every spring Dad complained about Mum's roses. The summer after she died, he did something nobody expected.

Do you protect something of theirs you once grumbled about?

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Dad bought trick candles for Mum's sixtieth by accident. He never got over it.

If one photo had to show who they really were, which would you pick?

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When you miss their voice
- Keep one recording: save a copy in two places, if you have one.
- Ask someone close whether they have a clip you have never heard.
- If there is no recording, write one phrase they used to say, just as you remember it.

#Grief #MissingYou

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Every message I started came out as half a sentence. So I looked at her photo instead: a winning hand of cards, and that smug face.

What would your short, true line about them say?

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An empty chair would have made the night heavier. So we made a different rule for remembering him.

What's one story about them you'd want their family to hear?

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After Dad died, Mum gave me my old maths homework. Then I saw what was drawn in the margins.

Who sat with you through the homework you hated most?