I had a realization a few years ago that I don't need to figure out why this person is doing a certain behavior I dislike. All that matters is I know I don't like the behavior and I can leave
you ever love someone so much you start learning about nutrition, grocery shopping & cooking so you can feed them well, & then you're brushing and flossing every night, & going for daily walks & getting enough sleep, bc you want to get OLD old with them and see a long future.....
If you love someone remove them from the pedestal which imprisons them and denies the fullness of their humanity. Allow them to be imperfect and assure them that their so called imperfection is also a reflection of the divine.