“He thought each memory recalled must do some violence to its origins. As in a party game. Say the word and pass it on. So be sparing. What you alter in the remembering has yet a reality, known or not.”
Stay alive just in case you get lucky
Many good outcomes (meeting the right person, finding the right idea, being in the right place at the right time) aren’t predictable or engineer-able.
they just rely on randomness.
The hipster journey is almost complete:
>born in the 80s
>grow up comfortable in the suburbs
>don't have to fight or struggle
>somehow feel unfulfilled like you're missing out
>romanticize the cities your parents abandoned
>resent the safe suburban life
>dream about being an artist or activist
>go to a private school and get a lib arts degree
>move to the city with your friends
>it's the 2000s
>live in Bushwick
>arcadefire.mp3
>feels kinda icky but you're so culturally enriched
>wear flannels and beanies
>spend years drinking craft beer and smoking weed
>parents get rekt during the recession
>stupid boomers lol suburbs are DEAD
>feel like no matter what, you're gonna make it
>2010s come
>city starts blowing up
>smartphones and social media happen
>get a good job and start to make ends meet
>rooftop parties, booze cruises, wandering the city
>songs of summer, startups, casual encounters
>support Bernie Sanders for president
>everything peaks in Summer 2016
>Trump elected
>you're now in your 30s
>things start getting expensive
>start seeing more tech bros and international rich kids
>meet an influencer who makes 10x what you do
>realize kids are a status symbol you can't have
>rationalize childfree living while your bio clock ticks
>your company closes, and you lose work
>parents bail you out because no savings (doordash)
>date off and on - some connections
>people just date for housing or clout
>get another job
>gonna make it THIS TIME
>2020
>pandemic happens and everyone leaves
>get stuck inside your studio
>mask up, follow the rules, and work from home
>relationship ends by spending actual time with partner
>friends flee to the burbs to start families
>don't want to change your lifestyle
>view leaving the city as defeatist
>become dependent on delivery apps
>make sourdough ironically, then unironically
>start going to protests and the current things
>riots and crime show up
>start to feel uncomfortable and unsafe
>get chased down the street by a crackhead
>start to feel resentful you are barely making ends meet
>biological clock starts ticking hard
>post-pandemic things cool down
>ridin with Biden
>OK finally can get back to normal
>costs explode again due to inflation
>you're pushing 40 now
>start a Substack about urban authenticity
>12 subscribers, 3 are bots
>morning $10 coffee spikes your anxiety
>start getting into houseplants
>biological clock is now air raid siren
>barely can afford rent
>your ex from 2010s just bought a house in the burbs
>blame unchecked capitalism for ruining the city
>start doing therapy
>one of your friends transitions
>dating is dominated by "ethical non-monogamy"
>lose money trading crypto and NFTs
>you're now the old guy at shows
>start doom-scrolling about housing policy
>demand affordable housing (without changing the city)
>demand more social services for the crackheads
>start reading marxism and "theory"
>join the DSA
>free free Palestine
>cut off contact with your parents
>start hating elon and join bluesky
>Trump elected again and you lose your mind
>now on SSRIs
>desperately look for hope
>you can't afford the new Nintendo
>join Zohran's campaign as a canvasser
>win the primary <----THEY'RE HERE NOW
>?
People who live in areas with brutal winters always overdo summer. Try to fit in as many activities as possible. You can feel the tension with them. Winter is always on their mind, even in the middle of July
When we assume even a fraction more of malice in another person than what actually exists, it creates a cycle of overreaction that often yields the negative outcome we’re trying to avoid via overreacting.
Temperance is a virtue, perhaps especially in how we judge others.
Politics can make you tragically narrow-minded; it encourages thinking in “defend” vs “understand” mode.
A purely political worldview is often no different than religious zealotry: no tolerance for uncertainty and every attempt at explaining the world must serve the ideology.