@unapolygetic I’ve said to every partner I’ve had: “I don’t need to be THE priority. But I need to feel like A priority.” It’s an important distinction.
The opposite of an inattentive partner is not necessarily a partner who thinks you're the centre of their whole world. There is an alternative where you feel cared for and valued without anyone over-extending themself.
Polyamorous until you find the one? You're not polyamorous. You're co-opting a label that you think sounds more palatable, but if you're dating around while looking for monogamy that's fine! Just call it what it is, rather than using poly people as stop-gaps and adding to stigma.
This past week:
* Fisted by long-term FWB
* Railed by new man who first spent hours listening/respecting my space before trying a damn thing, then making sure I got my own
* Caring for, snuggling and loving one of my best friends while we watched each other
Trust the process. 💞
@tedswing@polyphiliablog Polyamory is *a form of non-monogamy*. Do you have (or want) more than one partner? Guess what? That’s non-monogamy!
Still don’t believe me? Here’s a map. https://t.co/v9qb6DQEkR
(Also: ethics are subjective. Consensual non-monogamy is where it’s at, esp if you’re polyam)