I think ambitious people should treat life in “seasons” rather than trying to balance everything every day.
A few years massively overallocated to work. A period getting seriously fit. A year or two nomading. Then family takes priority for a while. Then maybe at 35 you go completely insane again and spend four years building a new company, and so on.
The mistake is thinking every metric needs to stay green all the time. Most great outcomes (building a company, writing sth serious, training for an event) need uninterrupted runs, not daily moderation. Sometimes work should suffer cause you’re travelling, sometimes your social life should suffer cause you’re building, sometimes career progression should slow cause family matters more. That’s fine.
And tbh it probably makes life more fun too. You get actual chapters and completely different versions of yourself instead of spending 40 years maintaining the same perfectly optimised routine. A few intense years in one city, a weird nomad phase, an obsession that takes over your life, then something completely different. Probably much more memorable than one very long well-optimised Tuesday.
It's why I encourage everyone to think of balance in years, not days. A good life can look horribly unbalanced on some random Tuesday and still be very balanced over 10 years.
nyc provides infinite optionality, which means you can perpetually avoid the commitments that force psychic maturation.
this is why when you speak to a 30yo in nyc it’ll almost always feel like you’re talking to a 20 year old.
this is primarily due to the fact that most ppl in nyc have never been forced to close doors. & closing doors is literally what growing up is.
Do fun shit, make a shit tons of money, talk to strangers, lift heavy weights, scare yourself, be uncomfortable, travel everywhere, enjoy every moment, Just live.
Neuroplasticity works faster under high emotional intensity. If you can resist a craving when it’s at its peak, you get a bigger rewiring effect. This is why the hardest moments matter most, they’re not setbacks, they’re high-voltage opportunities to change.