Life hit different when you stop trying to prove you didn’t say that, you didn’t do that, you not like that... you can’t fix every lie and every rumor, neither can you defend yourself every time something is said about you... just be great!
The "how can I help" women are few and far between, a rare breed. Most of them just want to receive help and you must still carry all your burdens on your own. Your relationship is essentially an exercise in taking on more burdens, hers being the main ones.