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If we ground trans rights in reality, then there's more to work with. It stops being all or nothing, for both TRAs *and* anti-TRAs.

For example some transwomen can't use male facilities, for real tangible reasons not "validity" and "inclusivity". That shuts down transphobes too.

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"If there are women who feel unsafe, if there are women who feel their space has become not private, then we should listen to them." NH Rep Jonah Wheeler breaks ranks with Democrats to help pass HB148, restoring women's sports and private spaces.

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@leftysceptic @janeclarejones @TybilAlper @GSpellchecker And each time I didn't see how it was distinct from sexism at all.

Go back to the engineer daughter example of you like, and explain what the word sexism lacks.

I saw that he assumed her sex is psychologically not fit for engineering/fit for motherhood or whatever... Sexism.

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@leftysceptic @janeclarejones @TybilAlper @GSpellchecker Well many people who say sex are also sexist!

Many people who say there are two sexes mean precisely the same as those who say there are two genders... because these words are colloquially synonymous.

Sexism comes from misconceptions about male/female biology and psychology.

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@janeclarejones @TybilAlper @GSpellchecker I'd call it sexism.

Not sure how swapping the word 'gender' in helps when to most people gender = sex and sex stereotypes =sex stereotypes.

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@TybilAlper @GSpellchecker @janeclarejones But that type of sexism still traces directly to biological sex, and what people assume biology mandates.

Eg. Ppl aren't abusing men for wearing dresses because of the dresses themselves, but because it makes them like females, which is associated with weakness and childishness.

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@janeclarejones Outside of academia, the word gender is used as a *synonym* of sex. It's handy to have a word for sex without the double meaning of intercourse.

That's people's default use of it, not personality or whatever masc/femme entails. This entire conversation is a semantic nightmare.

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@HannahBerrelli Or when they try to argue child drag shows are fine because child beauty pageants exist, which is also sexualising and creepy. Which is supposed mean it's fine or something.

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@LXV @Bohemiangirl @rhiannonlucyc Not objectifying. I'm queer and invested in our normalisation. There's no pro straight equivalent of this image that most people wouldn't call uneasy.

And 'so what if kids have kissy lips when celebrating sexuality?' is not helping us. Please try for even a second to see that.

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@LXV @Bohemiangirl @rhiannonlucyc Would like to see you actually answer my direct question btw. Seems like you're evading.

Can you see how a straight pride version of this (flags, signs, lips etc) would raise flags for many?

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@LXV @Bohemiangirl @rhiannonlucyc Again, I'd be fine with a gay kissing in a Disney film! And *some* super innocent valentine's day stuff for kids is fine

You're refusing to recognise degrees; celebrating only *sexuality*, with things that lean innuendos of desire is entering developmentally innappropriate realm

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@LXV @Bohemiangirl @rhiannonlucyc ...Would you really, REALLY not understand why I'd be uneasy with this is it was a celebration of heterosexuality in and of itself?

*Even if you disagree with my unease?*

"Party decorations" Sorry but I struggle to believe you're being good faith.

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@en_ligne_ @rhiannonlucyc Look at the image again. There's a little girl holding a this kissing lip shape 💋 over her mouth. If that was in celebration of heterosexuality I would absolutely call that groomer-y.

Do you see what I'm saying?

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@en_ligne_ @rhiannonlucyc That's actually what I'm saying, though perhaps that's didn't come across clearly.

It's good for kids to know that gays couples are as normal as hetero couples! But we're starting to get innappropriate for 5 year olds to specifically celebrate *sexuality*. Hetero OR homo.